Soul Mates and Twin Flames – Birds of a Feather or Feathers Off the Same Bird?

15th May 2012

By Chris Bourne

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

We’ve been receiving many questions of late concerning the subject of soul mates. It seems many are out to find their “ideal” partner in life.

So what’s it all about?

Do we meet on a dreamy white cloud and sail off into an eternal sunset whilst cherubims play their sweet soul music?

Or is there a bit more to it than that?

Both Trinity (my partner) and myself are soul mates who have joined in union in this incarnation to help one another. We felt compelled to write this joint article which you might like to read if the subject interests you…

The Twin Flame

The subject of soul mate would be totally incomplete with out first addressing the phenomenon of the “twin flame” because the former arises from the later. Please allow us to share…

The purpose of our soul (from our perspective) is to undergo countless incarnations in order that it may fully and completely express itself as a unique glorification of the One Life. In order to do this, the soul needs a powerful mirror. It achieves this by dividing into two. The division is notional just as all separation between individual parts of the One Life is an illusion. Both are complete, whole and yet the soul is comprised of two complimentary parts. Yes it’s a paradox of creation – the ultimate divine paradox that generates the experience of relativity and therefore the miraculous experience of life itself.

The purpose of twin flames is balance; they are directly complimentary to one another. This polar equation is necessary to create momentum and direction on the path of a soul. Without it, our journey would likely be random, chaotic and meaningless or even non-existent. Our twin flame draws us back to the source like a universal magnet; it is our memory of the original condition of absolute completeness expressed through the finest quintessence of form; she is almost, but not quite, completely formless.

Upon incarnation, one half of the soul remains in the highest levels of consciousness close to the source. Its purpose is to continually draw the other back to its true nature. It does this by manifesting reflections of itself through the weave of life surrounding its ‘other half’. For example, the half that is incarnated may suddenly find themselves drawn to a particular cloud formation, the awesome beauty of an animal or the miracle of mother nature. As we feel the stirrings of love, joy and harmony within, it is our twin flame that we’re likely connecting with reminding us of who and what we are. She creates our pathway and the beauty we experience on it. The connection generates safe, unattached passage through the external drama and helps unwind the conditioning that limits our limitlessness.

When we finally realise the presence and beauty of our twin flame, rather than getting engrossed within the mirror of them (believing our partner is them for example and attaching to that), we are blessed with the most profoundly magical state of being possible within incarnation. It is as if a hundred thousand angels are constantly positioned all around us, helping, guiding, nurturing and above all, unconditionally loving us. When the essence of our twin flame draws close, it is as if a divine being is sitting above our heads pouring a continual cascade of love downwards through our being. We will only feel this fully though when we give up the external search for an object of our love (a soul mate for example). If there is still residual need for another half to make the whole complete, this magical experience of divine self love is not possible.

Frequently the twin flame will appear in symbolic representation – a spiritual vision for example such as a unicorn or some other mythical animal. Sometimes it will appear in the people we are attracted to or form relationships with. A twin flame may even cast an energetic ‘enhancement’ (a rose tinted filter) around someone close to us in order that we may see the reflection and find the self love within. Earlier in our journey it is likely we’ll be seduced into thinking this partner is our twin flame. Indeed we may get duped in this way many times thinking “this is it”, “I’ve met the partner I’ve been looking for through countless incarnations”. If we have such feelings, what may have happened is that we’ve possibly met up with our ultimate soul mate. So what exactly is a soul mate and how does it relate to the twin flame?

Soul Mates

The term soul mate has a tendency to arouse romantic images of a pre-destined, ideal mate, upon which reunion results in the blissful, harmonious ‘answer to all things’. However, (at least in our experience) the truth is very different indeed. So what is the purpose of our soul mate? From our perspective it is this…

A true soul mate represents the closest reflection of the twin flame that is possible in physical incarnation. The soul mate is not our twin flame, but has agreed to partner through many incarnations to help us connect with our ultimate holy grail.

So the true soul mate presents a continually updating mirror to their partner in order that we may peel away distortions, find inner completeness and dissolve into union with our twin flame. Of course looking in the mirror is not always something we wish to do – especially if what we see doesn’t agree with us! To intensify matters, there is simply no escaping the mirror once its shown to us – all of our buttons seem to get pressed at once. We are continually exposed to the ‘good’, the ‘bad’ and the ‘ugly’! We might be forgiven for wanting to run a mile but then the love that unites both by a common cause pulls them back together for another round of intense navel gazing.

For a soul that is just beginning to emerge, this process would be too destructive and so union with our soul mate doesn’t usually happen at the same place or time until they have released sufficient karma and let go of remaining emotional attachments along the path. From our experience soul mates don’t incarnate together at all until each are ready to move on a higher plane of existence as part of their spiritual journey.

When soul mates unite there is no allowance for anything other than pure honesty and clarity between them. Remaining distortions surface rendering union almost incomprehensible before most of our ‘stuff’ has been released. It doesn’t serve any of us to connect before we are ready. Frequently people go through many relationships that help to fine tune and release attachments until they are sufficiently evolved to move on to higher paradigms with their soul mate. Of course we may often experience deeply fulfilling relationships with someone other than our soul mate before we get there. It is all part of the grand unfolding of a unique soul.

In conclusion

Frequently we read of people searching for their true soul mate. Unfortunately this is just another alluring deception of the matrix in which we live, attaching us to the endless spinning wheel of need or desire for physical and emotional fulfilment through something external to the divine within (our twin flame). When we release our attachment and reconnect with who we really are, peel away our distortions and allow our beingness to magically and effortlessly shape our reality, then first our twin flame will come calling, inviting us to unite in solitude. When this divinely magical event takes place, we may well be blessed by an encounter with our true soul mate in order that we may experience divine union in physical form but that’s unlikely to happen if we’re efforting for it.

It may well be a long wait, and the journey may be winding, but from our experience, it’s definitely a destination worth not striving for!

About the Author

At the age of 40 Chris was involved in a life threatening car crash in which he thought he would certainly die. This precipitated total inner surrender and a rapid reconnection with the conscious life force through all things.

He found himself suddenly able to experience and contemplate through multiple dimensions of reality to see the deeper purpose of life itself. He began to remember his true reason for being here.

He explains…

“During the crash, time seemed to slow right down and I was guided back through key moments of my life. I was realising that every moment in our lives has but one underlying purpose – to reveal an aspect of truth about ourselves to ourselves. I was beginning to dissolve every belief and value our society had conditioned within me.”

“This was my initial awakening to the magical unifying consciousness of the soul. Over the eight years that followed, I was guided through four other inner ‘Gateways’ of consciousness. I have since come to know the process as the five key expansions on our journey of Enlightenment and ultimate Ascension into multi dimensional living – our divine birthright”.

Prior to the crash, Chris had a rich an varied professional career in industry, in teaching, as an Officer in the Army and finally as a web development entrepreneur before being initiated on his spiritual path. With a Masters Degree in Natural Sciences from Oxford University, participants in the work are finding his integration of grounded scientific understanding and profound spiritual realisation deeply engaging and transformative.

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  • Adiana

    Can u tell something of how one can release our attachment and reconnect with who we really are? What does a soul need to know or understand to be able to do this?

    • Light Worker

      Namaste, Adiana. I ´v started reading ” The Law of One” series books and i believe they will help you with that question. In alternative you can research the authors website: , i think you will be able to find the answer there too. Love and Light, Namaste.

  • Chris

    Hi Adiana. It’s quite an in depth question. It’s really all about surrendering the sense of neediness and ego in this world. It’s about surrendering the need for an outcome from the situations that face you and totally accepting them – that they have a purpose, and that is for you to uncover an aspect of who you really are – a feeling at your core.
    You might like to check out our website and also our film called “5GATEWAYS” which goes into some depth on this…

  • Jeff Wilson

    There is a lot of misunderstanding on this subject, mostly based in sentimental thinking and desire. The reality is that there is a Web that you could call God’s blueprint. This Web is made up of Points (souls) all connected by one single golden cord. This Web expands outwardly for ..well an Eternity. (But does have an end point, which by the way we’ve reached….now the Web is expanding within itself, and there is an increasing pressure of the Light of the Web compressing…so to speak, this is causing what some call the Quickening… anyway, the expansion of this Web occurs as one point “attempts replication” (words are not really adequate here) but when this attempt is made, another soul is born. We are preceded by a soul that we “split off from”, and followed by one that “split off” from us. So within this Web, those that we split from and that split from us… are the closest things to us. It would be more accurate to say that we have 2 soul mates…it is a triplicity, not a duality…… But really it’s even more than that and is also dependent upon the distance from the Center of the Web, which has been called the “Spiritual Sun” which is ever expanding as the oldest souls Merge into it. And which also ….hmm, shows the point of evolution of a particular soul. This time we are in now is very special because the expansion of this whole Web has “hit the wall” so to speak, and now is Expanding not outward, but back within itself, as the replicating of souls does not cease. This “condenses” the whole and the outcome is critical mass where the many will merge into One. This is what the whole 2012 concept is all about, though I’m not sure about the year. Another way of looking at it is that this incarnation of the All, or God or whatever you want to call it, is coming to an end,preparing to reincarnate as it does pretty regularly every eternity or so. This sets up a really interesting scenario for all of us, but I don’t have space or time right now to go into it. Suffice to say that at the very end of this particular Incarnation of Eternity…. there will be, within the blink of an eye…. another eternity, before the next one begins. Much like, well actually exactly like the Heaven and Hell realms that occur between human lifes, where one can experience an eternity within the blink of an eye. A paradox the “Church’s” haven’t been able to reconcile, this is why the Christians can’t understand that going to Heaven or Hell for an Eternity is possible even though the soul can reincarnate in very short order. Anyway so it all comes down to, as far as “what is to become of us in the End? …that whatever level we vibrate at, will be our outcome…. So, Feed the Joy, dispel fear… And a joyful eternity ….between eternities, will be your outcome. What happens after that doesn’t really matter.