By Angelica Rose
Guest Writer for Wake Up World
We all want to find a peaceful journey on our path in life. A peaceful journey includes an abundance of unconditional love and joy. It’s easy to practice peacefulness when we are on vacation or in a nature environment.
The challenges occur when we’re surrounded by outside circumstances that seem unjust, unloving and unfair. This is when our peaceful journey tends to be shaken and chaos occurs both internally and externally. In order to have a peaceful journey in life, it’s important to embrace and accept what is with compassion especially during the chaos.
So let’s examine the difference between a “Soap Opera” lifestyle and a “Peaceful Path” on your journey in life. This will give you the opportunity to discover your “soap opera” lifestyle and learn ways to transform it to a more “peaceful path”.
The Soap Opera Lifestyle
I define a Soap Opera Lifestyle as an emotional and mental attachment to unjust, unfair, and unhappy situations that create drama and judgment.
Soap opera lifestyle occurs during the observation stage, where you analyze a part in yourself, a situation or others where there is a lack of peace. You perceive this occurrence that has a lack of peace, with judgment, and react with internal beliefs that could lead to hate and anger. Your focus is on the “outside world” attempting to change the situation and/or person. There is a tendency to want to fix, transform and improve the unjust, unfair, unhappy part in yourself, in others and in situations.
This external focus will lead to a victimization and feeling of helplessness. You may become discouraged, frustrated, confused, and angry possibly becoming mistrustful and jealous of others’ success. You could have passive/aggressive behaviors and feel you have to protect and defend yourself and/or even others. This feeling of helplessness will push you into a deprivation focus where you put your attention on what you don’t have and want.
Our mind is like a computer; what we focus on expands and creates that reality.
We can summarize the soap opera behavior as expecting results, which leads to trying to control the outcome, push ‘time’ and over doing. Trying to control the outcome, over doing and expecting certain results leads to conditions of want with a time limit of when and how you want it. The results are disappointments, victimization and feeling stuck when the conditions are unmet.
Many common reasons for the soap opera behavior stem from a “need” for approval, acceptance or love or possibly righteous and controlling beliefs.
The Peaceful Journey
The Peaceful Journey is an internal serendipity with circumstances that seem unloving, unjust, and unfair. You know there is a positive reason for this circumstance, which leads to growth, wisdom and opportunities. Therefore, you don’t over analyze and you apply acceptance, enjoyment, appreciation, value, trust and faith with the unknown. You understand that if it’s important to know the reason, in time you will know.
The peaceful journey begins with quieting the mind chatter, opening the heart and applying gratitude, appreciation and acceptance. You look ‘inward’ first rather than attempt to change or fix the outside world. You let go of attempting to control situations or people and move into acceptance.
From acceptance comes a greater understanding which allows you to then become proactive rather than fear based. I call this “Spiritual hearing”, where you have an awareness of your connection to source. You choose to focus on love, knowing the more you come from your heart, the more peace, joy and abundance you will manifest. You accept and have compassion for others, especially when there is chaos, unjust, unfair and unloving situations.
Steps Toward a Peaceful Journey
The steps toward a peaceful journey are pretty simple, yet can be challenging when obstacles occur. A peaceful journey begins when you hold self-love and acceptance. You value yourself and your work so others will too, and you do loving things for yourself to increase self-love. When you see through the eyes of love and acceptance, you hold a ‘light’ of awareness, peace, joy and abundance. There is acceptance and compassion for other living things from your divine heart.
Some helpful hints on staying on a peaceful journey in your path to life are as follows:
- Practice meditations to quiet the mind and connect the heart on a deeper level.
- Practice being at peace with the unknown.
- Relax the mind chatter, calm the emotions and surrender to having to know the answers now.
- Come from compassion and acceptance releasing the desire for understanding and remaining free of all attachments especially with fears and insecurity.
Attachments are where you emotionally personalize, physically have addictive behaviors, and mentally over-analyze.
- Have gratitude for the desires for which you choose to experience.
- Visualize the desires as if they already exist now.
- Have faith and patience for the desire to manifest, continuing to be grateful and in the moment enjoying life to the fullest extent.
- If you want to transform an external part of your life, transform the internal belief that holds those patterns in place.
- If you become discouraged, quiet the mind and connect with what brings you pleasure, allowing the heart to expand and feel energized.
- Be in the moment with what comes into your life and sense from the heart. Ask yourself if it leads you toward love, compassion, and self-acceptance or takes away from self-love and self-worth.
- Look and listen to your inner vocabulary that you use on yourself and others, making sure there is no victimization, negativity or judgment.
May peace, joy, abundance and love be with you.
About the author:
Angelica Rose is a Certified Hypnotist and has been a gifted Essence Specialist since 1991. Angelica’s gifts include communicating directly with your Angels and Guides, reading energies from the Angelic Realmwithout human filters, reading Energies in the 8 Chakra points stored in the emotional, mental and physical body, and Hypnosis using colors.
Angelica is the author of 2 books, 3 relaxation CDs, a Spiritual Journey spoken-word CD, ‘Listening to your Guides’ DVD, Chakra Frequency on Video, 3 Inspirational stickers and 40 inspirational messages on CD.
Visit Angelica at www.heartofmotivation.webs.com. (C) 2013 Angelica Rose – The Heart of Motivation.