Contributing Writer for Wake Up World
Who is in control of your life? Do you let the fear of others determine your path in life?
If you rely on others for the decisions you make with respect to your own life, being that you aren’t listening to your own inner spirit, what makes you so sure the decision you make based on what other people believe is the right one?
Who do they rely on to make their decisions? Is it the media (oh, help us!), television sitcoms (LOL!), news (whether right or left), superstition (maybe), or worse yet, their own fear (hmmmm)?
Their decision for you is based on their “perception of you”, which is very different then any decision you can make based from your own perception of yourself. And even your decision can change depending on your own state of mind, which determines your perception.
You are ‘within’ looking out, while they are ‘out’ looking in, superficially speaking of course.
No two people ever see the exact same thing — it is impossible. This is due to the following reasons:
- You are not on someone else’s path; you are only on your path.
- What you interpret as truth is only from your level of consciousness and awareness, while others are on their level of consciousness and awareness; thus, their truth.
- Only you can ever know what’s best for you because it is you that must learn and grow from experiences.
- No one can see the view from your eyes and no one can feel the attached emotions to that view other than you… your perception of what you see is unique to you.
… and probably the most important reason: Fear is a self-generated limitation imprinted by the limitations of others.
The fear I’m speaking of here is not the “RUN, there’s an enormous monster behind you!” kind. Although I think we can all agree that running due to fear in this situation is probably a really good idea! The fear I’m speaking of is the never-ending parade of thoughts that sound something like this:
- If I mess up, then they’ll think I’m stupid
- If I don’t win, then they’ll be let down
- If I don’t do this for a career, then they’ll be disappointed
- If I do this or that, then they won’t love me anymore
- If I ___________ (you fill in the words), then they’ll think ___________ (usually something negative)
Sound familiar? I think you’ll agree this list could go on and on. We each have our words to fill in the blanks, but the outcome is the same… FEAR! This fear is the warning sign that announces the up-coming illness or disease. This fear can be a killer! So I’ll ask the question again…
Who is in control of your life?
Healing Requires Perseverance… and Peers!
After 25 years in the health and wellness field, it’s my contention that the perseverance to take control of your life rarely comes without positive peer support. Our society is set up to honor heroic acts and single feats of grandeur. But if we look behind the curtain, most often there really is a village helping turn the wheels and prop up the person in front. Our peers, our family and friends, our co-workers all make a difference in how we choose to live our lives.
Ah, but you might say peers can have a bad influence as much as good. Sure. No question. The famous Framingham Heart Study agrees. It was the first study to make the connection between behavior and heart disease; the first to tell us if we eat a lot of “bad” foods and don’t exercise we’re more likely to have a heart attack. After 40 years of studying this subject, Framingham researchers also found that we’re birds of a feather. If you smoke and you hang around with a lot of smokers, you’re less likely to quit. The same is true for over-eating and a lack of exercise.
That’s the bad news. The good news is that it goes both ways. When one person quits smoking, all her friends take notice and, Framingham determined, at least one of her ten smoking peers will follow suit. Then one of that person’s ten smoking friends will do the same and so on.
The ripple effect is exciting!
So, if it’s true that healing rarely happens in a vacuum, why not take this power of peers and channel it in a structured and intentionally positive direction? Why not leverage the good news? Just as we can leverage the power of the mind to heal by placebo, why not influence our change with the power of friendship, familiarity, camaraderie, and on-going yet free support?
Our colleague, renowned culture specialist and peer mentoring expert, Dr. Judd Allen of the Human Resources Institute, points out that clinical resources for healing are often limited and impose time constraints. Peers provide a natural form of support. They are always there, in our lives almost daily, and in it for the long haul. Oh, and did I mention they’re FREE!
Peers know you. They know your local resources and options for success. They know your likes and dislikes. They know your limitations, but better yet know your strengths that surmount your flaws. They’ve seen you succeed and they expect nothing less.
Peers want to change too. They’re in it with you rather than an outside judge. They’ll often go to the class or the meeting with you, or pick up that same inspiring book, or do that same difficult challenge. Shared experience is richer, more flavorful, more colorful and more indelible in our ever important reservoir of happy memories.
I recently finished an intense 10-day “cleanse” diet. I had to seriously restrict my food and drink boring shakes every five minutes. It was hard. Really hard. I was grumpy and spacey, and I kept forgetting why it even mattered! But… three of my close friends and family did the cleanse with me. If not for them, I’m sure I would have given up. Every day we processed and shared what we experienced. We commiserated together, and we dreamed about bread, coffee and wine together!
We were there for each other and we celebrate the outcomes together! It was well worth the challenge!
These same people have helped me lose 15 pounds of fat over the past year by creating a whole new lifestyle. Because they matter to me and because I matter to them, we Zumba, we box, we dance, we laugh, we sweat, we eat amazing healthy food, we play; we grow together! We learn from each other and celebrate our positive changes. We help turn the wheels behind the scenes no matter how difficult the challenge for each. And, we stick to the excitement of each of our dreams making sure each has a fighting chance at her own heroism.
Imagine the world if everyone had such focus! And did I mention it’s free?
Don’t let the fear of what others think determine your path in life. Care and concern, joy and compassion, and, of course, laughter are all free! The power of the mind is indeed powerful, and it becomes ever so much more powerful when supported by the positive influence and reinforcement of peers. Think about your inner thoughts. Think about your peers and how they impact your health. How can you be a role model and begin to support positive change in your circle of friends and family?
Think about it, and just by putting it in your train of thought you’ll be starting on one of the best paths possible in positive, holistic healing!
Previous articles by Dr. Michelle:
- A Natural Cure for Migraines
- Chronic Headache Syndrome: True or False?
- STRESS!! Could Vitamin B5 be the Solution?
- America’s Love Affair with Pharmaceuticals
- The Sun & Skin Cancer: Examining the Truths, Pseudo-Truths & Lies of Mainstream Science
- “Blame It On Your Genes”: the Money-Making Myth of Modern Medicine
- Exposed: Monsanto’s Mission To Pharmaceutically “Enhance” GMO Foods
- Dogma and misinformation: a Fatal Mixture in Healthcare
- Vitamin B12 Deficiency is a Major Health Concern: Here’s Why!
- Natural Cure for Chronic Pain Syndromes Silenced by the Medical Establishment
- Can Cantaloupes Help Prevent Cancer?
- Illness vs. Industry: Will Scientists Ever Find a “Cure” for Cancer?
- Antipsychotics for ADHD? There is Something Wrong with Our Medical Establishment
About the author:
Dr. Michelle Kmiec is a licensed chiropractor who also holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Human Biology. She is life-long athlete who after curing herself 100% naturally from autoimmune neurological symptoms and anxiety, became an avid nutrition health researcher/promoter, author of Healthcare Freedom Revolution: Exposing the Lies, Deceit and Greed of the Medical Profession, and Founder of the natural health website Online Holistic Health.