Releasing Inner Attachments

By  Chris Bourne

Contributing Writer for  Wake Up World

Are you too attached to the outcome?

I believe that most, if not all of our problems in life come from being too attached – too in need of a desired outcome. Whether we acknowledge it or not, we tend to be attached to people, places, material possessions, careers or the need to be something. Why is it a problem being attached to these things?

The true self is pure presence flowing through each of us as the soul. It has no identity (although you can identify with it). It needs nothing because it is whole and complete, nothing is undone. It is flowing through life as souls garnering ever more varied experiences of its completeness. It does this by expressing itself through personalities – through  Soul Ray Harmonics. Ultimately the personality becomes an enlightened tool of the true self working with it like a wave on the ocean.

However to reach this point, we must expose and release those places where the soul gets lost in events and circumstances, the places where we forget that we don’t really need anything because we already have everything. So the infinite potential of the true self creates all manner of experiences through the soul, relationships, careers, desires etc. etc. which by  The Law of Attraction  draw circumstances to us to expose these attachments. Once we identify this as the true pathway in life, then we begin to notice our attachments and once we have seen them, we have a choice: either continue to live out that pattern or release the attachment and discover a more expanded facet of the true beauty flowing through us.

How do we know if we are attached?

The answer is quite simple – when we lose inner peace.

So how do we release attachments?

Assuming we wish to release ourselves from those places where we become imprisoned, then the key to releasing an attachment is to bring it into the light – to acknowledge it for what it is without denial. It is to fully feel the contraction caused by the attachment that we feel inside.

Then in the face of the attachment, in other words as we are in that place where we loose inner peace, it is to drop the attachment like “dropping hot coals”. Crucially though, it’s vitally important to feel the heat before we do so. That way, you ‘burn’ through the contraction and the corresponding attachment. It will hold you no longer.

As the ‘coal is getting hot’, you may find asking these questions of help:

1. Who am I? Answer: “I am the absolute” 

We are eternal, we cannot die and we cannot go anywhere because we exist everywhere. We created everything we are now experiencing and there is nothing we cannot cope with.

2.  What time is it? Answer: “The time is now”

Nothing before this moment matters because we can do nothing to change it. The future unfolds out of the present so we need not think about it. Therefore the only thing to do is be fully present in the moment now.

3. What do I need? Answer: “Nothing that I don’t already have” 

We don’t need anything that we don’t already have because if we did, we wouldn’t be here! We will always have EXACTLY what we need to be our true selves. It is only when we are being the false self that we experience lack or loss.

4. Why am I here? Answer: “To remember who I am”

There is only one true purpose of the universe and that is to experience who we are – the absolute. Every moment reveals this to us and there is absolutely nothing to do other than this.  

Distorted behaviour patterns

It’s highly likely that each attachment will have embedded various conditioned behaviour patterns in our psyche. So with the attachment now gone, we’ll still have to work to unwind these inner eddy currents of repetitive behaviour. And we can do this by holding an open space for our higher truth to emerge in the moment.

We’ve shared and explained the Openhand Approach to this more fully with our “spiritual compass” which you can read more about here…openway.

It’s something we teach on our level 2 Activation…  Walking the Path

I wish you a completely non-attached week!


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About the Author

At the age of 40 Chris was involved in a life threatening car crash in which he thought he would certainly die. This precipitated total inner surrender and a rapid reconnection with the conscious life force through all things.

He found himself suddenly able to experience and contemplate through multiple dimensions of reality to see the deeper purpose of life itself. He began to remember his true reason for being here.

He explains…

“During the crash, time seemed to slow right down and I was guided back through key moments of my life. I was realising that every moment in our lives has but one underlying purpose – to reveal an aspect of truth about ourselves to ourselves. I was beginning to dissolve every belief and value our society had conditioned within me.”

“This was my initial awakening to the magical unifying consciousness of the soul. Over the eight years that followed, I was guided through four other inner ‘Gateways’ of consciousness. I have since come to know the process as the five key expansions on our journey of Enlightenment and ultimate Ascension into multi dimensional living – our divine birthright”.

Prior to the crash, Chris had a rich an varied professional career in industry, in teaching, as an Officer in the Army and finally as a web development entrepreneur before being initiated on his spiritual path. With a Masters Degree in Natural Sciences from Oxford University, participants in the work are finding his integration of grounded scientific understanding and profound spiritual realisation deeply engaging and transformative.

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