By Ken Fried
Guest Writer for Wake Up World
Did you happen to acquire some habits through the winter that you know maybe aren’t the best for you? It’s only normal during the coldest, darkest and driest months of the year to snuggle under the blanket of emotional and mental comfort. Fundamentally emotional and mental comfort is what we need but, when it’s at the expense of our long term health and wellness goals we’re setting ourselves up for failure. At the core of every non-nourishing habit is a desire to fill unmet needs for security, comfort, self-esteem and love.
Ironically, the more we seek and strive and adapt ourselves to fulfill the fountain of desire, the greater we separate ourselves from that which will actually bring us peace, joy, equanimity and balance. It’s in this state that we are most vulnerable to eat that box of cookies before bed, to have a bag of candy & coffee in the afternoon, or to ‘veg out’ with a movie instead of going to the gym.
So, at this point you might be scratching your head…how is it possible to snuggle under that blanket of emotional and mental comfort in a way that is loving, compassionate, nourishing and aligned with my highest wellness goals?
Here are 3 simple tips to help you make nourishing choices in any season and any situation like a seasoned pro!
1. Step back and observe your desire
By observing our desires we are severing emotional ties and training ourselves to realize that we are not our desires. Leave out the judgement, criticism and guilt, purely observe.
2. Ask yourself: ”will fulfilling this desire make me feel more _____?” [fill in the blank]
Maybe it’s love, maybe it’s acceptance, or maybe it’s self worth, whatever it is for you, it’s important to re-establish a reflective relationship between the choices you make and your deepest emotional needs.
3. Having reflected, now make the choice
Eat the cookies, don’t eat the cookies. At this point what’s important is that you’ve bridged the gap. Through observation, reflection and contemplation you’ve effectively reconnected your actions to your emotional needs. In this empowered state, over time, your choices will begin to reflect the highest vision you have for yourself.
No time is better than now to practice these tips. As we enter into spring, the season of purification and growth, we’re given an extra loving boost from mother nature to transform old patterns anew.
Do you have a successful approach to making healthy choices? We’d love to hear it, post your comments below!
About the author
Ken Fried is a Holistic Health Coach & Detoxification Specialist having studied at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and under the tutelage of world-renowned healer Dr. Robert Morse. Ken is currently studying at the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching and is working towards his certification through the International Coaching Federation. Drawing upon the immutable laws of nature and the innate intuitive faculties of his clients, Ken empowers individuals suffering from chronic illness to realign with nature, clear obstructions and regain vitality so they can live a life of vibrant health, free of fear and anxiety, without the need for invasive and costly medical treatment. Ken works with clients across the United States and abroad via Skype.
To get a complimentary copy of Ken’s eBook, Dismantling the Ideology of Chronic Disease visit his website Sambodha Lifestyle & Wellness.