By Lisa Young
Guest Writer for Wake Up World
How do we live in the true nature of Love in relationships?
Does love mean that we sacrifice being our authentic self?
Is it a type of ownership of another’s attention, time and even body?
Embracing Unconditional Love
To experience the true nature of love, it helps to embrace an understanding of truly unconditional love. This concept is actually a massive step, for if our love is truly unconditional, there are no strings, expectations, or ownership attached to it. It is pure love for another and the desire for them to be and experience all that they are.
In an intimate relationship based on this pure essence of love, each partner desires the others happiness and fulfilment; whatever that means and looks like. And the specifics of such a mutual agreement are, of course, unique for each person and every relationship.
This opening into pure unconditional love is a process, as we dis-entangle ourselves from our past limited experiences and understanding of love. It entails a personal and shared journey filled with extraordinary rewards, personal growth (and challenge) and entirely new experiences of life and self.
Set Each Other Free
Living in unconditional love means allowing freedom for each partner to continuously grow, evolve and experience in the way they are guided. You truly “set each other free”. And with this detaching, it is often discovered that your partners growth naturally expands you and the relationship.
This new paradigm of relationship asks for a deepening into a commitment and trust that, even if one person’s evolution shifts the entire dynamic of the relationship, it ultimately serves both. An energy of stagnation in one, will, in time, be felt and impact the other, while the expansion of one allows a new field of possibility to be created and shared by both.
In opening your self to a full love relationship, you invite in a soul-to-soul connection, each nurturing and supporting the other’s soul growth. The relationship shifts from a limited bond, based on certain conditions and expectations “in the name of love” to a co-creative support of each other’s birthing of the essential self on the Earth.
Creating a Living Space for Each Other
There is exquisite artistry involved in creating a living relationship that allows each person their own full, rich experience of life. It takes courage to hold a space for the one you love deeply, be it a child, friend or spouse/partner, to step into more of their true self. As many parents experience, this allowing may translate into less time and attention on you, and possibly even letting your beloved go.
For this is truly LOVE. Wanting what is best for the other, more than needing to “have” them for yourself. And ultimately, through this experience of freeing your loved one, you free yourself to more fully experience love, both in you and for you.
Love as a State of Being
Love is really a state of being. It is who we are and the divine fabric from which we are created. As we learn to love another fully and release our needs, fears and expectations around them, we awaken to more of the love that pulses through us. The magnificent and sacred dance with another eventually leads us back home to ourselves, and ultimately, to our own divine nature… which is pure love.
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About the author:
Lisa Young is a Visionary and Spiritual Thought Leader focusing on the emergence of a New Reality on our planet. Her private practice as an Energy Medicine & Consciousness Consultant, has allowed her to support individuals in their spiritual evolution and remembrance of their True Self. From these profound experiences, along with her own spiritual awakening, she shares an understanding of the extraordinary cosmic plan unfolding on the Earth: One person… One new thought… One new possibility…. a Whole New Earth.
Lisa’s writings are varied and address areas in life that are Universal to the human experience. She addresses patterns and concerns that often arise as we live more consciously and invite more joy and peace into our daily experience. She shares insights, tools and energies that assist in our awakening to the Beauty and Magnificence of Life and our Essential Self. And she shares the excitement of having the greatest seat in the Universe – alive and awake on Planet Earth, Ground Zero of the Greatest Show in the multi-verse. All is shared with LOVE.