What Starts Happening When You Begin to Love Yourself More

By Paul Lenda

Staff Writer for Wake Up World

Self-love is a tricky thing to navigate. On one hand, the distorted view is that it is a narcissistic ego-glorifying action. On the other, authentic self-love is honoring yourself in the sense that you, as much as anybody, deserve your own love. When you start loving and accepting yourself, something extraordinary happens.

You free yourself from everything unhealthy. This means physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Food, people, things, addictions, situations, and philosophies that were causing you harm will no longer have that power over you.

Love is an empowering energy. When you love yourself because you realize you are a consciousness fractal of the Source, you see the wonderment of your being directly. You then feel the wish to honor it, with the attention and care that it deserves. After all, you have this tremendous opportunity to be so directly able to manipulate Reality in this physical plane in a way that is only possible thanks to you being here. Your true inner being is love incarnate. The human mind and ego persona make us forget that sometimes.

The true you is an aspect of the love within all existence. In Lake’ Ch…I am another yourself.

Loving Yourself Leads to People Loving Themselves

The primary blueprint of reality has encoded within it the dynamics of interconnected wholeness. This means that any one part of the Whole affects the Whole. We can tie this into the idea of loving yourself leading others to love themselves. Again, we’re talking about authentic love, not egoic narcissism.

Things like stress send our energetic vibrations into the rest of the collective consciousness. They are ‘contagious’ and will affect the emotions and perceptions that others experience. This means that energetic waves of love also affect the Whole. The more you honor, care, respect, and love yourself, the more those vibrations permeate into the rest of the collective. They will be felt most closely to where you are physically located, but will ultimately have an effect on the entire noosphere.

Loving Yourself Frees Your Soul

Let love be the sweet elixir that awakens your soul and moves it to dance with Life. As the Shakyamuni Buddha once said, “Love yourself and be awake…today, tomorrow, always.” These to go hand-in-hand, because when you love yourself, you recognize what you truly are. You are awake to the true Self, that inner being and ‘higher’ Self that you embody.

Find a little love inside, and make this world better for you and I. We’re all in this together, all affecting one another. The more self-love you feel, the more you help others have self-love as well.

Jack Kornfield once asked us to reflect on three questions for ourselves to answer.

“In the end, these matter the most:

How well did you love?

How fully did you love?

How deeply did you let go?”

The world can be an overwhelming place these days. With so many forced to self-isolate, making personal connection like dancing, laughing, crying, hugging, kissing, and touching challenging. These are all needs as ancient as humans themselves. That is why, when you are unable to connect with others, you will need to look within to find that companion that you can feel love from. After all, this is the best source of love. Otherwise, we may get too dependent on others’ love, leading us to feel a void if we do not get it from them. This can lead to depression and all the repercussions of that state.

Love yourself, and you will have a continuous connection to the Source love that expresses itself through everyone, no matter how hard it may be to see in some people. Love yourself, and you will help others feel more love within themselves. Love yourself, and you will free your soul.

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About the author:

Paul Lenda is a conscious evolution guide, founder & director of SHIFT, author, writer, speaker, meditation teacher, life coach, and ambassador for the New Paradigm wishing to provide an integral role in personal transformation and the collective social transformation of humanity. Paul offers private one-on-one holistic life counseling & conscious evolution sessions, via Skype or phone. Paul takes into account all aspects of the hyperdimensional matrix when providing guidance, counseling, and coaching.

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