21st April 2016
Contributing writer for Wake Up World
“Where there is sorrow, there is holy ground.” ~ Oscar Wilde
Is it possible that grief is not just wretched sorrow? If so, to experience anything more than destruction in grief, what is asked of us?
Moving through loss is to not bypass the transformation it has in store for us. But to move through it, we first have to let it in. Once we allow it to settle in us — seeming to occupy every cell of our body — grief leaves us when it’s ready. So, in reality, we let grief occupy and move through us, leaving us changed to the degree we allow it to do its work.
At the center of grief is a strange sweetness, the tenderness of what we loved, that has left us now. So afraid we are of feeling wretched pain, we push our sadness away. This is a learned behavior, as we want to protect ourselves from what hurts. We can unlearn it and move counter-intuitively, and wisely, into our longing and heartache.