Contributing writer for Wake Up World
I Love the rain. I always have. Maybe it’s because Water is my element. Maybe it’s because I’ve had sorrow in my Life and the rain is fresh and rejuvenating. Maybe it’s because Spring is my favorite season. Maybe it’s because I want to feel Pure and Clean.
I wish this was the type of rain I was talking about today, but what I’m talking about is the rain that pours from the Heart, the Soul, and the eyes. This rain is grief.
Grief is a very common process that we go through when we have had a loss or trauma in our Lives. This grieving process is a normal, natural process but it can become very difficult if we don’t accept it and allow ourselves to work through it. Oftentimes, we allow ourselves to grieve the loss of a Loved one but we forget to allow grief for Oneself, whether that loss comes in the form of death, separation, or renewal — as is common whilst we evolve from negative emotions that may have kept us stuck.
We’ve all had trauma in our Lives at one point or another but the key to overcoming trauma is to get to the root of it and give permission for SELF to grieve — which can be the most difficult part.
We all have a Higher Self who is right on the other side of the veil, and who only has our individual best interests at Heart. When we deny ourselves the important process of grief, we truly become detached from ourselves and our emotions, so it’s beneficial on a Soul level to Allow the energetic process of grief to ensue if it needs to, because it’s not worth the trauma that’s caused by keeping it inside.
I AM Grateful for grief and its process because it allows me to know that I AM Alive and that I have Loved and been Loved.
This is the true nature of grief and sorrow. You have to know that you will grieve and be prepared for that so you can begin to Heal. This is a process that isn’t easy but will be made more difficult if you don’t allow yourself to go through it, open to the lesson of its experience. By not allowing yourself this necessary process, you will only prolong it.
It also helps to understand grief and what to expect of yourself during times of grief. When you are grieving loss, you will do so until you are finished and no one will know how long that will take, especially you. You can’t expect to just “be done” with it because expectation will only make the process harder. There will be times when you will feel as if you are okay, only to find 2 days later that this may not be the case, so it is helpful to recognize the process and persistence of grief regardless, of how much we want to wish it away.
You may find yourself in denial because your mind is having a hard time accepting this very different reality. But it will slowly allow you to access the other emotions involved, as you are ready. You may be angry because you are in pain and because you miss your friend, even if that friend is yourSELF who has come to this process by way of trauma. You may be angry because you are scared of what your Life will be without this dear Soul to turn to. You may feel somewhat helpless because of circumstances and may feel a need to control certain things. But there is sorrow and fear behind this need to control, and once the mind is finished masking these other symptoms with false needs, you will feel very sad — and this is painful. This is where it gets tricky and avoidance comes in.
It may feel like you want to release your sorrow, but in order to do that you have to allow yourself to feel the pain that comes with it. Sorrow is hard but it doesn’t have to be if you surrender to it and allow yourself to feel Truly it. And the best way to do that is by honoring your friend (and yourSelf) and the Joy they brought to your Life. Embracing the heartwarming moments that come to your heart and mind when you think of them in tribute is the key to mastering this process. In these moments is where you will find your friend and more importantly their enduring Spirit — their residual energy. These are your memories and no one can take them away from you. They are part of you, so you honor your friend and your relationship, and allow yourself to remember them in this way.
These pivotal moments in time are forever sealed in the Book of Life, the Akashic Records, or the Cosmic Mind – however you wish to look at it. The Love you have for each other is forever recorded in the Universe and will be there for all time. This is where you will find your friend, both now and “later”. Allow yourself to cry the tears because it means you Loved your friend, and you are releasing the pain that should not be kept inside. Allow yourself to feel the sorrow so that you can rejoice in the memories. You cannot remember the good times by avoiding thinking about your lost friend, so to honor their memory you have to honor yourself – by allowing yourself to remember.
Be forever Grateful for all of the memories in every moment that you think of your friend. And be grateful for the rain. There must be rain in order for flowers to grow. There must be rain to maintain balance on Mother Earth. And, most importantly, there must be rain in order to know that you Loved your friend, they Loved you, and you will miss their presence in your Life. This is the duality of our universe.
So I will say to you… let it rain!
After the Rain comes the Rainbow, and this is acceptance. When you see the Rainbow you will know that your friend is just on the other side, filled with Joy that you made the journey down this road together. You will See and Feel the Spirit of your friend, and their Gratitude that you Loved them enough to remember and Honor them in this way even – though it caused you great pain and heartache. Thank them for walking down this path with you and for being with you when you finally reached the Rainbow. And know that they thank you. This is when you will know that they are always with you and will forever be a part of your Soul, and you of theirs.
This is when you will remember where they are and where you come from.
Recommended articles by Jennifer Deisher:
- Stop, Look and Listen: Healing a Society in Denial
- Healing The Trauma Drama
- Let It Rain – Finding Gratitude in Grief
- Into the Deep – Learning from the Shadow Within
- The Ties That Bind – Releasing Toxic Relationships
- Remember Love
- Where I Come From…
- Dying to Live: Unity and Oneness, or Corporate Rule?
- Embodying the Aspects of Our Authentic Self
About the author:
Jennifer Deisher is an empath, intuitive, emotional healer, spiritual transformation artist, and the writer of the Moon Hippie Mystic blog. Aaron Deisher is a psychic medium, shaman and intuitive specializing in behavioral and paranormal aspects of spirituality. Together they founded Blueprints For Butterflies as a safe, loving space to support people who are awakening and making a spiritual connection with their Higher Self. Offering professional healing and reading services, they work to help others confront their ‘demons’, realize their divine spiritual, emotional and creative blueprint, and create a life that resonates with each individual’s unique energy signature.
For more information or to book a session, please visit BlueprintsForButterflies.com.
This article adapted for Wake Up World by Andy Whiteley and Jennifer Deisher.