Transcending Inadequacy: Healing Low Self Worth, Anxiety and Depression

June 20th, 2018

By Matthew J. Holden

Guest writer for Wake Up World

Inadequacy or low self worth remains one of the largest tragedies on Earth. Low self worth paralyzes one’s life with anxiety and fear, and often leads to depression. I’ve spent most of my life suffering from this condition — but solving this problem is not as difficult as it appears when we understand the science governing it.

Healing Low Self Worth, Anxiety and Depression

First, visualize yourself as you desire to be. This visualization creates an intention, a new frequency in your consciousness that is different from the current YOU. The tension between these two frequencies is called duality. When two frequencies, higher and lower, exist simultaneously, how do we make the two become one? Practice.

Our intention creates the new frequency as a potential, but it hasn’t yet been realized. Its realization comes through harmonizing the three aspects of self in unity: thought, word and action. Once all three are harmonized with the new potential, realization takes place and the new belief/neural-groove becomes dominant, and the old groove moves to the background.

However, instilling the new belief requires much conscious control of yourself, and human beings have a great tendency to drift away from the present into past consciousness, otherwise known as programming.

The Old You

Programming represents the neural-grooves that have existed since childhood when your brain develops and you are essentially a sponge. These neural-grooves, called beliefs, are running your life the 95% of the time that you’re not conscious/present.

Awareness is key. Once a new intention is created — a new self — the shifting of consciousness means shifting from an old neural groove to a new one. In the beginning this is challenging because the old groove is very deeply rooted and is comfortable. I will repeat that again – our old self is what we find comfortable. New grooves are uncomfortable to create because the 3D brain is designed for stasis, meaning no change. It is designed to maintain equilibrium and to avoid what it perceives as disharmony; such as you creating a new belief/self/groove.

If you feel like it’s a battle, what you’re battling is your brain’s structure, which is designed to maintain the status quo and not seek growth, even though growth is what you desire. The old brain isn’t particularly intelligent, it’s bio-machinery, and for all the brain’s uses it is the biggest impediment to your self development. The brain is wired for survival, not happiness.

Accepting Discomfort

Accepting discomfort is necessary for growth. Many authors have written about the necessity to move outside your comfort zone. That comfort zone is your old thinking, beliefs and neural pathways. Fear and anxiety is your brain’s method of keeping you where you’ve been programmed to stay. Facing your fears, learning to accept anxiety as a natural part of growth, is healthy. Staying inside grooves that don’t serve you leads to stagnation, even self-loathing, and diminishes your happiness.

Remember, we have been trained to perceive fear as as a sign of danger, but this is not always the case. Breaking this connection, that fear means danger, is key. Creating a new intent or affirmation associating facing one’s fears as a necessity for personal growth is healthy and very productive. Along with your initial belief — the new you — it is extremely valuable to create this second intention, to re-frame one’s perception of fear. In fact, the ability to re-frame fear may be the most important belief we can change, for learning to act in the face of insecurity and change guarantees our growth.

An Example

Write down all the small things you are afraid to change or are procrastinating on, and set an intention to do them for the singular purpose of experiencing anxiety and becoming comfortable with it. Facing the fear of one’s fear is the issue here, not the fear itself. We aren’t attempting to achieve anything in particular except learning to accept anxiety and not run away from it. To do this, we make fear a synonym for growth — and allows ourselves to begin to grow.

This is much easier than you may currently believe, for much of the resistance and anxiety the brain offers up is an illusion. Stay grounded in reality, and not the illusions created through faulty thinking and unnecessary neural pathways. Take charge of your life and excel.

You know the new belief has been installed when your new desired action becomes habitual.

New Habit: Accepting Anxiety and Shame

Try this affirmation and visualization:

Affirmation: Through facing and accepting my negative self, I become my Highest Self. I become whole and complete.

Visualization: Envision yourself having accepted your negative shame-based self, faced down your insecurities, and become whole and complete.

Each of us has a positive and negative aspect. Integrating the negative aspect harmonizes the self and we become balanced. Love and compassion/connectedness represent the feminine energy.

Courage, persistence, confidence and self worth are a part of individual self expression. These aspects are masculine energy. Harmonizing the two divine aspects of creation creates unity of the soul and a healthy human being.

About the author:

Matthew J. Holden: Grew up on the West coast of Canada. Living in Victoria BC. Studied Engineering and Computers in school, been in the dark night of the soul for a LONG time and am now recovering.

I love Quantum Mechanics, Metaphysics, Spirituality and Logic. I enjoy solving Conceptual Equations that cannot be solved and proving that which cannot be proven. I’m better at theory than practicality and have much to learn.

I was having a difficult time in life and God came and got me. Convinced me I should stick around for a while in this lifetime. It’s hard to say no to God, He’s very persuasive.

You can follow me on, YouTube, or visit my website, where this article first appeared.

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