Are you an Empath?

By Openhand

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

Unfolding the Higher Paradigm.

Imagine being able to feel and sense everything, whether positive or negative around you, 24/7. An Empath can’t turn off empathy (unlike someone who is perhaps ‘empathising’). It is possibly one of the most challenging of psychic gifts to master. I am an Empath who has spent nearly two decades, since awakening, mastering my empathic nature. It is an ongoing process. I am still not perfect and not sure that I ever will be whilst incarnated here. I am however content, despite the challenges of integration, as I see it as an incredible gift to humanity…

Empaths incarnate into this world without a manual. Some seem quite blessed in that they bring with them the memories of mastery from past lives. Even then, the remembering is often a bumpy journey in itself. To add to the confusion, most Empaths cannot tell the difference between their own energy and someone else’s. Something happened on my journey where I just ‘got’ the difference. It came from increased presence. There is a subtle vibrational difference that we can discern when we are fully present. Constantly attaining presence within spiritual evolution is a very important key to mastering empathic gifts that I cannot over emphasise.

Everything is energy

Everything is energy, pulsating particular vibrations. Since an Empath feels energy, just like a living person breaths air, it is understandable why a few issues might arise as an earth-incarnated-being. Humanity (apart from perhaps indigenous cultures), is one big confusing energetic vibrational mess! The modern world is a melting pot of fractured and frantic energies: for example, loaded emotional projection, hidden agendas (whether personal or global), wi-fi, mobile phone radiation, electric gadget emissions, multi media marketing designed to allure and captivate, highly processed foods, TV, the thudding din of consumerism… the list goes on and on.

Empaths will feel the energy in the field, feel the energy of conversation, feel body language, feel words used (or not used) without intellectual interpretation. They will intuitively know what an energy is ‘really’ about despite what is conveyed on the surface. They will also know what a person is really saying, no matter what words are being offered.

Because of the tendency for people to hide the full story, or try to control the situation, an empath will tend to feel a huge inner conflict or inability to process the enormity of the engagement. One of the main problems for Empaths is the lack of transparency and honesty in the world and the consequent resentment of having to process all the energy that is not in full view. Of course lots of of these sensitive beings struggle also with things that are in full view too.

“Make it go away!!!”

Most people who have this trait do not see it as a gift. I would more often expect to hear the pleading cries to make it stop. Initially, it often involves being so overwhelmed with feeling energy that it is challenging to function in an ordinary sense. Empaths often come across as over emotional, at times others become emotionally detached in order to cope. It wouldn’t be unusual that they might just ‘freak out’, without apparent cause. They often prefer their own company and don’t like to build many personal relationships.

      In my early days I used to cry out to the universe

“I don’t want to feel all this energy – it’s not mine”…

      the universe would always reply that it is a gift.

“How on earth is this a gift!!!”

    I often found it difficult to get close to people in a personal ‘every day’ sense. It would drive me nuts, so I would prefer independence or distance. Independence and contentment with only a couple of close friends still feels very natural to me. In a way, it’s a saving grace.

Powerful impetus to sort it out

The initial overwhelming intensity served a wonderful purpose for me. It evoked a powerful yearning to master my unique configuration here as an earth-being. It created the impetus for me to come to terms with my natural born empath traits and master them, eventually finding a high altitude of peace and functionability with it all.

The importance of releasing emotional attachment
Releasing emotional attachment is the main key to mastery. Most Empaths suffer needlessly because they cannot release their personal emotional attachment to feelings. If we let go of attachment, it doesn’t mean we won’t feel. It just means that we don’t get tangled in the feeling anymore. It means we can watch as things happen and really discern that ‘that isn’t us’, ‘that isn’t our own feeling’ and really begin to embrace when we are DIVINELY GIVEN to take action or not.

For me this involved years of becoming consciously aware and centred. Once I started coming from a centred place of presence, I began to discern what I was meant to do, releasing emotional attachment to both that which is not meant for me and that which was. This is a very powerful factor as it means that we can still feel the energy empathically, but it doesn’t bother us adversely any more. We are able to act of infinitely more divine service when we are not attached emotionally. In fact unless we come from this place, we would tend to make a situation worse not better. That’s the bottom line. It means we feel the energy with the deepest compassion, yet we can truly hold the space for another. In so doing, we reflect the light of benevolence, allowing true healing to take place.

Finding inner peace and stability

Daily centering, meditation practice, yoga, compassionate eating, conscious lifestyle, conscious choices that cleanse our energy field and promote centredness will all help big time! Being in nature serves to recentre and recharge depleted energies. Spending regular time in solitude away from idle chatter and drama can be invaluable. I would say that making sure that a bare minimum of half an hour per day consciously looking after yourself is crucial. The more the better. The above are very important. There may also be many other ways, such as swimming in the ocean, hill walking, having a bath with oils or salt, giving yourself a foot massage, listening to your favourite music, playing an instrument, conscious bodywork or massage… basically whatever it is that helps you maintain balance and build up your sense of inner peace and stability.

Another important key is ownership. If you have the trait, then to deny it just makes it worse and ensures that our spiritual evolution is dysfunctional. Our evolution will happen when we embrace our unique configuration. So we need to be 100% honest with ourselves and know that it will get much easier the more and more present with become with it. The only way out is through.

Without these practices it is very difficult (I am not sure if it is even possible) to master being an empath here. So if the motivation is a little lacking, JUST DO IT anyway until you find a rhythm to your daily life that you see working.

A true gift of benevolence

So whether you are an empath or you know one personally, hopefully this is helpful in some way.

I truly believe that, the challenges as highlighted are there to help us refine and alchemically transform this true gift of benevolence. The gifts of empathy have the power to really make a difference in this world. This is what most people who feel the call of Divine Service long for, to be able to help others in a life changing way.

An evolved Empath has the natural ability to connect on a Soul level, helping to release blocked energy with another. An Empath, if given, can also release coagulated energy within the field at large, discerning between what is benevolent and what is not. Since everything oscillates a frequency that can inadvertently influence everything around it, then a truly benevolent Empath realigning the energy field can help make a huge difference in terms of spiritual evolution.

Whether an Empath not, if we can all work together with our gifts we can allow this higher paradigm of to unfold together.

Soul to Soul

Trinity

About the Author

Trinity Bourne is an experienced, empathic energy worker. Around 18 years ago, during a profound spiritual awakening,the world around her shattered. At the time, she became engulfed in a white, universal, timeless, formless light until nothing else existed, other than the nameless truth at the core of all sentient beings. Following which, her path rapidly became one of deep compassion for the Earth and environment.

During her journey, she has integrated a wide variety of multidimensional gifts including clair-sentience, kundalini awareness, inner child healing, removal of energy blockages, past life regressions and karmic healing. She works hand in hand with the Angelic Realms.

Trinity is the co-founder of the Openhand Foundation, an organisation dedicated to the evolution of humankind. She works as the divine complement to her soul mate Chris Bourne to help facilitate the global Ascension process and feels incredibly blessed to be of divine service.

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  • W

    I consider it a curse. The noise never stops. At times in the past I’ve attempted to end it myself, but never had the courage to follow through. So now I drink myself through it. Even though I help countless people every day, I just want it to end. the sadness of heart and constant restlessness is too much to ask of anyone. There is no peace, there is no quiet. I envoke happiness and laughter every where i go, all through the day…but the sadness and emotional pain that isn’t mine is too much to shoulder. I truly wish I was a dumb sheep like most. the truth is agony….every moment of every day, it wears the soul and spirit down as does the river to the rocks….

    • Lightworker Gaia

      Brother please don’t feel this way, be happy. It’s as simple as making the decision to do so. It doesn’t take courage to end on’e physical life only cowardice, resulting from fear. Don’t submit to fear. Recognize the love vibrations that emcompass us all and embrace them. We’re all in this together, you don’t have to go it alone. There is a way for everything to exist harmoniously and we will figure it out because this harmony is of our origin, so don’t lose faith. If you’ve found yourself lost in your way let a guide, which the world will provide you with, lead you as far as you need them to take you and give back to the world by simply existing as your true self, with love! This may find you in any number of ways so don’t disregard anything that speaks to your soul whether its message is transmitted in a conventional way or not, as there can be many paths to the same destinations along the way. You’ll find surely find your way as long as you let yourseld do so. You can do it. I believe in you.
      – your friend who loves you 🙂

    • Tiff

      <3 I hope you decide at some point to make the choice to embrace it, rather than fight it. <3

    • Jjule

      Hi W. it is exhausting, and feeling all the crap around us, can be over intense. This article is great, in it gives clues how to handle. My sense, is your boundries are still being broken through.
      Don’t give up, we need people who feel, to help those sheep. I have a friend who is so lalala. Head in the clouds, hasn’t a clue to the energy around him. I have often thought, ” how easy”. That isn’t our path, dam it, at times. Try not to fight it anymore. You’ll have more self energy. I myself have been flattened lately from too much energy coming at me. I hunker down, recharge, and release as much as I can. You can do it :-). Big hug.

    • Razeher

      I am the exact same way! I can’t stand it. I too drink it away. I have a dotted line tattoo across my back, because, I feel everyone’s pain there. I would love tobfigure this out. The advice here is good. I may try and focus more. I’m glad to know there is a name for it and I’m not alone.

    • IAMPhilip777

      Hello W, Perhaps the Key to your breakthrough lies in developing your discernment… invoking Light into your energy field daily and accepting that on a Higher level… You chose these gifts to develop them further…. Please forgive me, but wallowing in self-misery is just an ego-based perception that keeps you in denial of who you are and who you can BE…. I, personally have gained great momentum in my life through the Teachings given through a messenger on AskRealJesus.com….. and before you might dismiss this a some kind of Christian thing, let me assure you that it is far above and beyond anything I have heard through this life… Either way, I have no doubt, that the key to you transcending this ‘burden’ will be masked by your ego… usually just behind an assumption that you have not truly examined… ~ Shine On

    • Nick

      Hey W,
      I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. I could have written for myself what you wrote, word for word. I too have struggled with thoughts of creating an exit and starting over. It’s got nothing to do with fear as one response stated. Like you said. It’s got everything to do with just wanting this “noise” to stop. I too want to feel the peace. There is good advice in the article but I’ve realized for myself I need to get help finding the peace because I cannot do it myself. It’s like i’m plugged in or hard wired to this. It’s not a blessing. It’s a f$#*ing curse and yes I hate it enough where I too have considered a premature exit. I struggle with it every day. I don’t have any answers as I haven’t found anybody to help me through it. I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone in this “hate of this blessing”.
      Peace….

    • Luminousman

      I understand you situation. I was the same way..then I learned about acceptance and just being the witness. When you can remain detached to become sort of an ALL SEEING EYE. This is a great gift. When you master yourself and realize your connection to the universal consciousness you will be able to channel info where it might be helpful. Of course many of these situations must be lived thru by the persons that you feel experiencing them because it is part of their education and we do not want to interfere unless to perhaps re-direct. we have this gift so as to be able to guide others on their quest towards the LIGHT. I wish you well.
      Namaste
      P.S. Pathwaytohappiness.com the self mastery course set me on the right path after 50 years of “wondering”

    • Stephen

      “dumb sheep like most”?? You sound like a dumb sheep yourself, just following a different shepherd. I think your problem is you just need more attention.

      • wotsamattabooboo

        Stephen!! are you sure your comment isn’t a reflection of the way you feel?……

    • Sam

      Leave, W. Go somewhere as rural as possible. I can feel the world from anywhere, feel anyone from anywhere, even you. I don’t know what it feels like to be you as so many claim, that is special to you. I can feel you as me though, I can feel you right now. The noise will lessen when you leave for a more secluded place. It is drawing you out as I type, I can feel it and you know where it is. Go there. You cannot escape the sensory of your form but your essence is a conscious Awareness where no feelings or thoughts exist. You will rediscover this in a rural, natural location. And as I once did, and still do, you will need to ease your way back into your senses from there, from neutral. Without a companion/friend with immense Presence whom could diffuse and deflect your sensory with his/her own energy, the noise will continue. But you, among other people, need to realize that the Earth has its own Presence and Energy and if you recede into the dirt beneath your feet and the leaves of trees and smells of flowers and eyes of animals… The noise will shed to the edges of your screen and there you will begin to see a clear vivid picture again of what is in front of you.

  • one

    Yup, it hurts. Believe you me I feel you…maybe more literally then I like to admit. Just have faith in the process and keep on trucking. Whether you believe or not, I promise you we are being led in a definite way.

  • K.L.

    I am as well, W. And have had the same exact feelings you have, while invoking good vibes everywhere. Been in great ruts lately, depressed, suicidal, what have you.

    We have a part to play though. Our paths might be harder than most, but we had volunteered for this, and we can take it. [:

  • [email protected]

    I am and I understand, but it is a challenge. I enjoyed your perspective. That which most people consider loneliness is actually solace to me and is necessary to order to continue to use this “gift.”

  • kim

    Thank you for redefining my reality. I have struggles with being an empath for a long time never really understanding it so I have helped others to feel energy like I do. It does seem like a curse at times, but I have found that no matter the persons issue I for some reason can talk them through it. I have been fortunate enough to find a love and a connection with someone who is ok with me “reading their mind and transfering thoughts back and forth”. That is a gift from the universe that I will never take for granted. Thank you for this article.

  • Mort

    The preface to one of the oldest manuals on body work starts: Sick at heart at the ways of men, he rode of into the desert to die.

    Ignorance is bliss. Knowledge is power, but power corrupts.

    Learn how to strap yourself in. Protect your emotional inputs.. Ie water fingers/ring finger… Left for the boys right for the girls. Learn the holographic anatomy and fix your fleshbag.

    Lastly, I once stepped into ye olds tunnel of light.. Ie pearly gates. I always imagined god to be perfect and thus perfectly happy. But far from, the pain that god suffered out there in the deep reaches of star nurseries, took me by surprise. Suffering is everybody’s lot, even gods. Ring complaints if you like, but its part of the job.
    Tattooed person who posted here about blocking with tats… How about permanence of the tat? Does that not cause problem cleansing? I strap, but unstrappingg is great. Once in a while for cleansing and letting go.

  • J.L

    Thanks for this article- I always just thought it was something weird about me… The worst part is seeing/ hearing/ feeling all these signals when many others just don’t and wondering if you’re crazy… But the best part is feeling such a deep connection to people (even the ones you don’t know so well because you can “read” them)… as a result, people feel connected to you too, and that’s a great thing to have!
    For W -best of luck on your journey. My heart broke reading your post and I hope that you can find a “filter” – so that you can feel the warmth of the beautiful parts of life and not let the bad parts get you down.

  • Mary

    We are not alone… I am not alone… You are not alone…. Knowing there are other empaths with empathy for all other empaths, our circle of connectdness can only get stronger, our objectives only closer.
    Thank you for beautiful words, Most Highs mysterious ways

  • To: W….. Move…. I suggest a more peaceful place.. Small town / village in Panama or Guatemala..(Booze is cheaper there..;). Then u can get a grip on whats what without so many souls and influences to tend with.. Good Luck…

  • Rachel

    It helped me to realize that I don’t have to help every person I encounter. I don’t have to take that energy. It’s my job to take care of my own first. Also, I recently learned that I can focus my empathy. On a recent visit to the hospital to visit a family member, I felt the pain & sadness emanating from the building. Then I changed my focus, and could feel the love! So I focused on that to get through the visit. It takes practice, consciousness, and good boundaries.

  • momo

    I deal with it really well. I do often get confused between my feeling and others. I don’t like the mall but I learned at an early age to use my gift to make friends. I moved a lot growing up, 28 times in 18 years. I also use my gift in my work. I work as a Vet tech. It has helped me know what I am dealing with in owners and my patients.

  • harmony

    If one wants to be physically healthy, they would eat right, work out etc
    If one wants to be mentally healthy, they would read, have stimulating conversation etc..
    If one wants to be spitirtually healthy, they would pray, go to church etc..
    If one wants to be emotionally healthy one just doesnt take it personal.
    To W..stop owning others stuff..time to grow..up and stop abusing yourself..love is the key.
    Love yourself first, then this gift will work right. Its in the journey…

  • Excellent article…
    I too am an Empath. And I must say I’m very thankful that this article wasn’t about,”protection”. There is so much Newage Sewage floating around these days, mostly by folks who really don’t have a clue what they are talking about…about “Protection”. I was born an empath, but in my early 20’s did something (against my teachers strong advice not to) that increased it to such a critical degree that I felt everyone’s feelings and infirmities and thoughts within about a whole city block. This required at the time that I quit my job and move as far away from humans as possible. I developed a technique to deal with it that I knew would eventually manifest major problems, as it did…but what was I to do, couldn’t hide out in the mountains for the rest of my life. Well I managed with this technique for many years…blocking the input you might say. Of course energetic blockages always create problems..and I paid. But finally learned….. what you call emotional detachment, I call withholding judgment… because as long as we perceive the world in dualistic terms based in a judgment… we will be prey to the “negative” side. It will be difficult for us to deal with that which we have judged as “negative” when it enters our space. If there is no judgment….there is really no problem. This realization saved me… “Protection” only feeds a duality where we are prey to our own judgments.

    • Thank you for sharing Jeff. It warms my heart to heart that you too have found that the value of non-judgement in this way. It is a really important key to embracing an empathic gift. Many people percieve acceptance as a weakness. To me acceptance and non-judgement involve an incredible courage and trust that will allow the way forward to unfold before us in ways that denial never could.

      To ‘protect’ or ‘build up barriers’ against incoming energies creates a fight mechanism that makes it hammer down the door.

      Thank you for sharing.

    • Debbra W

      I hide out in the mountains too, but I have discovered that I can make it “down the hill” if I have someone with me that I know well. I’ve had this all my life and only in the last five years found the name for it. It is a tool and I try to use it. A dark closet is good for when it’s too much. I know that I actually did sign up for this, twice. I remember.

  • Light From Within

    Very Nice Read and Solid Points.

    It sometimes does become difficult to discern who’s energy is what and one of the most challenging parts, I’ve found, is when/how the energy is transferred to the empathy which in-turn absorbs it, becoming it.

    The need to release and discharge, let go, disconnect and re-energize from within is a something take requires practice and the points above on healthy living, meditation, ownership, writing, solitude are all valid rights of passage.

    Truly Blessed I find myself to be.

    A Gift and Not A Curse.

  • Sana Durvesh

    This article was great help in reinforcing what i have been doing all these years to master my empathy.Thanks for sharing.

    • ken eaves

      it’s very heartening to hear so many others are using their empathic gifts. I still struggle with it on days especially when I’m working with someone who is especially distraught. i’m still not always grateful for this “gift”, but spiral my way through it

  • WeGaianEnergetic

    Thank you for the article, and thank you, fellow empaths, for your comments. They’re helpful.
    With the transforming world we are living in, I’m experiencing an opening of my empathic gift daily. It’s helpful for me when going through a tough time that I connect with my heart, and center myself.
    I’m sure you all know how tired one can get when subconsciously processing all of the energy/emotions of a day. Nature always works when I’m looking to refocus, yet, I have found that I do not come back home feeling 100% cleared.

    Continue to touch the hearts and souls of those in your life. <3

  • Bill russell

    I just thought I was crazy for many years and tried to escape in drugs, booze, sex all of these still left me empty and confused.A few years back I had heard the term used outside a Sci-Fi show and wondered if that could be me. Reading your article answered some of these questions, but raised a whole lot more. I feel lost and confused on a regular basis as well as suicidal at others. Depression has been at my side most of my life, and the great sorrow I felt for the world and those around me felt like a massive weight. You described me to a tee in this article, and I hope to find that centering through the wellness training I am getting at the VA. I really need to be networked with others like me who don’t look at me like I am retarded or a liar.

  • FromClotsToGods

    This “ability” becomes a gift once you gain mastery over “it”. By the time you gain the knowledge and understanding on how to imprint your energy on to others and even others at a distance then you will be “loving it”… This requires being physically fit, (if you want success at true mastery of “it”) You will become like an Artist and the world will be your brush. Stop running from it, and that’s an order!!!…lol. But remember this “ability” will forever be a “work-in-progress”, I’m learning that this “ability” comes with accessories. This year has brought in strange and delightful fruit…

  • Gem

    Figured this out years ago on my own. Funerals and places of severe despair were the worst. Still are but I am better able now to cope. I am who I am. Cannot change this so have eventually worked out how to manage it. Used to think I was going crazy. My job has some days where I’m hammered by negative energies and it shows. But I recentre and start afresh the next day. Good sleep is vital.

  • La’Quinta Nixon

    I have vivid premonition dreams and my discernment of people is off the charts..which equals a very lonely life because of how people perceive me..I love so hard it literally hurts and it’s overwhelming at times..I embrace my gift but I am constantly in a state of confusion because I don’t know my purpose in this life..my many jobs of very different types has proven this..

  • Krista

    I know this artical has been out for six months or more but I am wondering where else I can get information about being an empath…..I have always taken things peraonally and a few years ago realized I reacted or hid from the strongest emotion in the room. People I want to consider being friends with I want to get to know on a deeper level or feel some kind of connection with…..I must have learned to shut some energies down, but ive been wondering if I was an empath for a while now….where can I go, where is the best place to start…..??? Can anyone out there share with me…….??

  • Susan

    Wow….You hit the nail on the head. It causes so much depression at times. sigh

  • This is the best description of something I have also had to learn to manage. Not easy these days. It really is overwhelming. And trying to sort out the mis- dis- information from the truth and outright falsehoods is a daunting task. Thank you so much for writing this brilliant explanation.

  • Donna B

    I have been an empath since birth. I was told that when I was an infant I would constantly cry anytime my Mom would take me out in public. She said the only time I was truly content was when I was at home sitting in a big box.. yes a box lol. As I grew up I found it almost impossible to handle school, especially Jr. High School, I am guessing due to all the people going through puberty? I was always labeled by my parents as a sensitive child or an over emotional teen. Now that I am 50 and I look back on my life I realize that I am the loving and compassionate person I am today because of this gift/curse. I have had many Reiki sessions to help me learn to channel the energy into positive and useful ways. I also must “cut cords” regularly. Sometimes I forget to do this and my amazing husband will remind me to do it when he see’s I am getting overwhelmed. Yes it is hard being an empath but it is all I have known. I feel blessed that I can really relate to people, animals and even plant life and feel so much. I do have a question here for the other empaths. Do you now or have you ever felt what I can only describe as a slight nauseous feeling just under your skin sometimes? If so has been getting worse lately?

  • Tone

    Only recently have I realized my curse/gift and am super hungry for information and specific tools and instruction, for I DO ACCEPT this “noise” and “chaos” in my head as a positive. I just don’t really know where to start; only that my soul seems to be more calm and at peace when i travel to a higher elevation, the mountains.

  • thank you for your article. Writing truthfully about am empaths existence is so important, as I am sure everyone is unique in how they cope with the overload of emotion. I believe there are more of us that we are aware of. As a kinesiologist we often consider the stress involved in being either an empath or a sympath, empath has a few deep crows feet on the outside of the eyes whereas the smypath has many light fan shaped crows feet. My husband and I are direct opposites in this area, he cannot understand how emotional I feel about things that don’t involve me. We have an understanding know that I am the awarensess meter and he is the initater of any action if it is required. This helps me find resolution for the feelings I am having and it helps him become more aware of situations around us. Sounds co-dependent and was for a while but now it is just utilizing our strengths. I found that often in that kind of emotional state it was hard for me to make rational decisions, I was often so focused on regaining my inner equilibrium. So for me mechanisms to resolve the feelings, music, art, exercise all seem to help. I reckon resolution is a way of being present, “so where does this leave me now?” becomes a fine question to ask. So good on you for this article, helps me to bring some fine focus to how I am doing things. TKS

  • Little Bright Feather

    I’ve been an empath all my life, but it is not as you describe it. It only happens when it apparently is needed. I feel what others are feeling and thinking, and sometimes it’s annoying to others when I come out with what’s in their head before they get to say it. It does not happen all the time. I do not control it. I can also do it from on TV in a movie or program I’ll say the words before they do. It also happens on the phone. I can sometimes see ahead for a person. I’ve been able to do this since i was 2. I’m almost 70 now. It just happens; I have never controlled it. It is there when it’s needed. God knows when it’s needed.

  • Tanya

    I am just now, at 39, trying to learn the difference between my energy and that of others. Like others have said, being an empath is quite exhausting at times. My Grandmother was one and the world was too much for her. My Aunt is the same way. It is hard on family members who don’t understand and are not empaths. Right now I am in preservation mode. I am hiding from the world as I feel so drained. People burn out. World burn out. Too much stimulation of things around me. There are some family and friends that think we are “not all there.” It used to hurt me to my core but now I understand so much more about myself and I am okay with what others think. They have no clue what it is like. It is liberating to be able to let go of what others think now. One the flip side, I DO know what a blessing it is to be an empath. Finally after all these years of not understanding it and fighting it, I am working with it. I am finally going after the degree I have always wanted. My heart goes out to all those who struggle to find happiness.

  • Mar

    Thank you so much for this article!!

    Since I’m a child I have been wondering if I come from “another planet”!! Now I know there’s a name for it and I will do my best to do what’s right to keep this gift flowing nicely. Will do many more research about it to learn more ways to deal with.

    Thanks

  • Bradley

    I fought it hard. I have had it all my life. I had a couple suicides that were intervened thankfully. I was only 7 or 8 years old trying to understand. It got worse in my teens as I tried to numb myself with drugs. I thought surely I thought I was crazy and I just wanted to stop feeling. I had 2 overdoses. Then as I decided I should just focus on life I moved away. Went somewhere new. Moved to a different country. But that ended up as a failed marriage and so much stress I didn’t sleep for a year. So I accepted it. I embraced it. Sure my body is a mess now and some think I’m crazy, but I am healing. I have a family now who knows and understands, and more importantly accepts it. It took me 35 years to get to know myself. I am sure there are people who went through the similar experience. I hope to meet some so I can tell them it’s ok.

  • Ann

    I too am an empath. I always new something was odd. It took me years to process it on my own and come to terms with ME. What the heck was wrong with me? I avoided and still do to some degree mystical believing people. Feeling that sometimes these folks over romantasized “gifts” or out right lied to take advantage of others. I do isolate myself. It allows me to feel safe and when you talked about the “chatter” you where dead on! I often explain to my closest friends that I like to be alone. it helps to block all the outside chatter and negative influences and to be alone with my own thoughts in order to “clearly” process. Even then it can be tough sometimes. It’s the oddest thing…no matter how well I isolate I am fond! Someone will always seek me out for help. I am completely confused by this as I am not out going. I do not speak of such things. I certainly do not advertise myself and most of the time I have no clue as to how I can help. People I don’t know find me!!!!! I get the whole energy attraction thing but honestly this is ridiculous! It’s so bad that I have a hard time doing what I need to do for ME for all the desperate people reaching out to me for help. I know that sounds callous but it’s frustrating. I naturally want to help others and it always cost me one way or another. I don’t know how to balance it and be personally safe. Also even talking to my closets friends about it is uncomfortable. It’s a weird discussion and every time leads into them claiming some kind of psychic ability of their own and BELIEVE me I know the difference…I FEEL the difference. Now I know everyone has intuition and some are better at interpreting their intuition. But that doesn’t always mean they are what they claim or want to be. It makes it hard to talk about and express when the conversations are redirected to them. It’s a lonely knowing because they cannot understand or should I say empathize. Lol! It’s also a contradiction because on one hand I desire to shut the world out and on the other pull it in. In other words I don’t want to be alone but absolutely need my space and a protective bubble. My friends just see it as a personality quirk. I also find that this kind of sensitivity allows people to take advantage and sometimes become jealous. (For lack of better a better word). Does anyone else experience this? How do you get around the “door mat” thing or the “jealousy” thing?
    Here’s the other thing and it’s greatly disturbing…I inherently KNOW the evil inside others. We all have it but I’m talking about “sociopaths”. I immediately tune into their energy. I know their “core”. I know their “motives” and their “insecurities” I even know how they’re going to react or their next moves. I sense them like a blood hound and can’t control it. But what’s scary is they sense ME too! Somehow THEY inherently sense me as a threat! Even if I avoid them I sometimes become a target.
    I find it difficult to monuver my around in this world unnoticed. So I figure if I can’t hide I need to find a way to make it work to my benefit. I just don’t know how to go about doing that and be safe at the same time?

  • Ann

    Also for the record…expressing to someone their insecurities is not always welcome. Lol! Recently I was offended by an accusation toward me by someone I deeply care about. I told them they had hurt my feeling and should have left it at that. But NO I had to take it further. I posed to them in a series of questions…”Why the self loathing behavior”? “What it going to take for you to be happy with YOU”? I knew the answers but I wanted them to inter reflect and realize their true motives for being suspicious and accusatory of me. The problem was that my timing was horrible! And while at the time I convinced myself I wasn’t taking jabs or pushing buttons I in fact was doing just that. So admittedly there are times that I use “skill/curse” to an advantage and maybe not in such a conscientious way. People are not always ready to address their issues and unless they ask it’s not really wise to impose upon them their inner most fears and problems. Just saying…Sometimes it’s a slippery slope.

  • speaking peace

    Thank you all for the support. I offer it back. Only riverside do I find peace. But still we have to pay the bills and save for retirement. And do so in a way meant to give to the future. Which requires engagng actively. I find jealousy at root of many attacks. On defense almost too often to contribute consistently. They’re scared of what I might do because no matter what it means change. Much easier to belittle my character… And my health suffers.

  • Brandon

    I have struggled with this – not coping with drinking or drugs, but I’d feel depressed. Not exactly depressed though. Just angry, frustrated, and done given up on the way the world is. I feel everything. Consciously I know I subconsciously do.

    Recently though, my outlook has changed. I no longer get caught up in the emotion of everything around me. No longer feel detached from everything. No longer purposely detaching myself either.
    I’ve simply decided to just.. Go with it.
    Not embrace it but feel it and transfer it into the current moment of now that I live in. I no longer get caught in the emotions, but rather act upon them.

    I consider myself to be a good person at heart. And no matter what, I follow that outlook when I project my actions upon the emotions I sense and feel.
    Life has done a complete 360 on me mentally.

    I have progressed further than I ever imagined and feel so connected to myself that I am happy.

    I truly, and honestly believe I found the key to mastering my empathic capabilities.

    People in my personal life notice my demeanor has changed, I’m much more social than before (and I was very social before just not in this way). Others i am consistently around, acquaintances will you, no longer bother me (kind of that awkward social stance, but not really, if you kinda understand that). and rather I use who i am to project a better me and better atmosphere for everyone around.

    I swear that this has to be the key.
    Focus on living in the now. Not what you feel.
    Project what you feel, into the now.
    The atmosphere around you and others can be changed if you use what you feel, to project a better atmosphere in that current exact moment of now.

  • Gabrielle

    I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me, thank you for this article, I realise I am not alone now.

  • Linda

    I am an empath. I had no idea what that word meant or that there are others like me. I’ve been this way my entire life! Even as a child I would just know things, feel intense emotions of others. Adults would tell me personal things if I talked with them. It made me extremely shy and I would walk with my head down terrified to make eye contact with anyone. As a child I had few friends and that has followed me into adulthood. It still freaks me out because I don’t have any idea when it’s going to happen. All these people are complete strangers. I call them my “talkers”. All I have to do is say Hi and they just start telling me the most personal things! Sometimes it’s seems like they are in a trance or something. They talk and talk about very personal things then when they are done they say Thank You. Going out in public is torture for me. I cannot watch the news. The only TV programs I can stand are Nature shows & I have to be careful selecting them too. I have no idea how or even if I can block it. I certainly don’t understand WHY I am this way. I call it the gift/curse. My adult son has it too. He will tell me he will just be outside at work and a stranger will come up to him and say the most personal things. I say I understand completely! I’ve dealt with this my entire life. It showed up in him in his late 20’s. If anyone knows how to block this (besides becoming a hermit) I would like to know.

  • Blessed be

    This is the first article I’ve ever seen on the subject and I’ve read a LOT of new age / spiritual philosophy. What an incredible article! Thank you so much! My first experience with it I was 21 and tending bar at a blues club. I was the only person working (behind the bar) and there was one other employee, the doorman and a full house of patrons. I noticed in very stark manner my energy effecting the entire lot of people, so much so, I thought I must have eaten some funky mushrooms (but hadn’t). It was a total trip! I realized right then the influence of my energy. Didn’t realize it was unique though. Now I understand what the “gift” of it is. It is the ability to influence the energy of your surroundings in a very direct way. Now I can focus on harnessing this! Five minutes ago I had no idea what the “gift” might be. (How could it possibly be a gift?) Ahhh love! The non-judgement comments above were very helpful as well. Blessed be~

  • Blessed be

    Now I’m remembering more… In Junior High School, students I didn’t know would approach me at study hall and ask if they could sit down and ask me for advice. A number of random people did this to me and I couldn’t figure out what was going on. One person said they thought my father was a preacher. (No, he was an alcoholic.) I also took on the weight of the world and was suicidal for a good 30 years. I am finally healed and at peace thanks to a ceremony I partook of with sacred medicine and a realization that these are not *my* burdens. They began long before I got here and may remain long after I’m gone. I am simply a witness and perhaps it’s in transmuting that energy we feel that our gifts also lie.

  • Jason

    I take isolation breaks when it becomes overwhelming. Giving myself a quiet ‘timeout’ away from people for a short while allows me to clear out my thoughts and sensations. A few times a year I take an extended period (a couple days or so) to enjoy solitude away from the chaos. Drinking numbs the wits, in a pinch, but is a very poor long-term solution. Best of luck and I knew from day one that it wasn’t just me. =)

  • C.A. Hare

    I fought this as a child. It was very painful. Hard to understand. When I realized most people did not have these experiences I became very jealous and wanted to be like others.
    I managed to get rid of it… to hide it from myself. Its still very much a regular experience but I block it out with effort. It is my effort now to embrace this and no longer block myself from the experience. Thank you for this article.