Being an Empath


By  Openhand

Contributing Writer for  Wake Up World

Unfolding the Higher Paradigm.  

Imagine being able to feel and sense everything, whether positive or negative around you, 24/7. An Empath can’t turn off empathy (unlike someone who is perhaps ‘empathising’). It is possibly one of the most challenging of psychic gifts to master. I am an Empath who has spent nearly two decades, since awakening, mastering my empathic nature. It is an ongoing process. I am still not perfect and not sure that I ever will be whilst incarnated here. I am however content, despite the challenges of integration, as I see it as an incredible gift to humanity…

Empaths incarnate into this world without a manual. Some seem quite blessed in that they bring with them the memories of mastery from past lives. Even then, the remembering is often a bumpy journey in itself. To add to the confusion, most Empaths cannot tell the difference between their own energy and someone else’s. Something happened on my journey where I just ‘got’ the difference. It came from increased presence. There is a subtle vibrational difference that we can discern when we are fully present. Constantly attaining presence within spiritual evolution is a very important key to mastering empathic gifts that I cannot over emphasise.

Everything is energy

Everything is energy, pulsating particular vibrations. Since an Empath feels energy, just like a living person breaths air, it is understandable why a few issues might arise as an earth-incarnated-being. Humanity (apart from perhaps indigenous cultures), is one big confusing energetic vibrational mess! The modern world is a melting pot of fractured and frantic energies: for example, loaded emotional projection, hidden agendas (whether personal or global), wi-fi, mobile phone radiation, electric gadget emissions, multi media marketing designed to allure and captivate, highly processed foods, TV, the thudding din of consumerism… the list goes on and on.

Empaths will feel the energy in the field, feel the energy of conversation, feel body language, feel words used (or not used) without intellectual interpretation. They will intuitively know what an energy is ‘really’ about despite what is conveyed on the surface. They will also know what a person is really saying, no matter what words are being offered.

Because of the tendency for people to hide the full story, or try to control the situation, an empath will tend to feel a huge inner conflict or inability to process the enormity of the engagement. One of the main problems for Empaths is the lack of transparency and honesty in the world and the consequent resentment of having to process all the energy that is not in full view. Of course lots of of these sensitive beings struggle also with things that are in full view too.

“Make it go away!!!”

Most people who have this trait do not see it as a gift. I would more often expect to hear the pleading cries to make it stop. Initially, it often involves being so overwhelmed with feeling energy that it is challenging to function in an ordinary sense. Empaths often come across as over emotional, at times others become emotionally detached in order to cope. It wouldn’t be unusual that they might just ‘freak out’, without apparent cause. They often prefer their own company and don’t like to build many personal relationships.

      In my early days I used to cry out to the universe

“I don’t want to feel all this energy – it’s not mine”…

      the universe would always reply that it is a gift.

“How on earth is this a gift!!!”

I often found it difficult to get close to people in a personal ‘every day’ sense. It would drive me nuts, so I would prefer independence or distance. Independence and contentment with only a couple of close friends still feels very natural to me. In a way, it’s a saving grace.

Powerful impetus to sort it out

The initial overwhelming intensity served a wonderful purpose for me. It evoked a powerful yearning to master my unique configuration here as an earth-being. It created the impetus for me to come to terms with my natural born empath traits and master them, eventually finding a high altitude of peace and functionability with it all.

The importance of releasing emotional attachment

Releasing emotional attachment is the main key to mastery. Most Empaths suffer needlessly because they cannot release their personal emotional attachment to feelings. If we let go of attachment, it doesn’t mean we won’t feel. It just means that we don’t get tangled in the feeling anymore. It means we can watch as things happen and really discern that ‘that isn’t us’, ‘that isn’t our own feeling’ and really begin to embrace when we are DIVINELY GIVEN to take action or not.

For me this involved years of becoming consciously aware and centred. Once I started coming from a centred place of presence, I began to discern what I was meant to do, releasing emotional attachment to both that which is not meant for me and that which was. This is a very powerful factor as it means that we can still feel the energy empathically, but it doesn’t bother us adversely any more. We are able to act of infinitely more divine service when we are not attached emotionally. In fact unless we come from this place, we would tend to make a situation worse not better. That’s the bottom line. It means we feel the energy with the deepest compassion, yet we can truly hold the space for another. In so doing, we reflect the light of benevolence, allowing true healing to take place.

Finding inner peace and stability

Daily centering, meditation practice, yoga, compassionate eating, conscious lifestyle, conscious choices that cleanse our energy field and promote centredness will all help big time! Being in nature serves to recentre and recharge depleted energies. Spending regular time in solitude away from idle chatter and drama can be invaluable. I would say that making sure that a bare minimum of half an hour per day consciously looking after yourself is crucial. The more the better. The above are very important. There may also be many other ways, such as swimming in the ocean, hill walking, having a bath with oils or salt, giving yourself a foot massage, listening to your favourite music, playing an instrument, conscious bodywork or massage… basically whatever it is that helps you maintain balance and build up your sense of inner peace and stability.

Another important key is ownership. If you have the trait, then to deny it just makes it worse and ensures that our spiritual evolution is dysfunctional. Our evolution will happen when we embrace our unique configuration. So we need to be 100% honest with ourselves and know that it will get much easier the more and more present with become with it. The only way out is through.

Without these practices it is very difficult (I am not sure if it is even possible) to master being an empath here. So if the motivation is a little lacking, JUST DO IT anyway until you find a rhythm to your daily life that you see working.

A true gift of benevolence

So whether you are an empath or you know one personally, hopefully this is helpful in some way.

I truly believe that, the challenges as highlighted are there to help us refine and alchemically transform this true gift of benevolence. The gifts of empathy have the power to really make a difference in this world. This is what most people who feel the call of Divine Service long for, to be able to help others in a life changing way.

An evolved Empath has the natural ability to connect on a Soul level, helping to release blocked energy with another. An Empath, if given, can also release coagulated energy within the field at large, discerning between what is benevolent and what is not. Since everything oscillates a frequency that can inadvertently influence everything around it, then a truly benevolent Empath realigning the energy field can help make a huge difference in terms of spiritual evolution.

Whether an Empath not, if we can all work together with our gifts we can allow this higher paradigm of to unfold together.

Soul to Soul,

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About the author:

Trinity is an experienced, empathic energy worker. Around 18 years ago, during a profound spiritual awakening, the world around her shattered. At the time, she became engulfed in a white, universal, timeless, formless light until nothing else existed, other than the nameless truth at the core of all sentient beings. Following which,  her path rapidly became one of deep compassion for the Earth and environment.

During her journey, she has integrated a wide variety of multidimensional gifts including clair-sentience, kundalini awareness, inner child healing, removal of energy blockages, past life regressions and karmic healing. She works hand in hand with the Angelic Realms.

Trinity is the co-founder of the  Openhand Foundation, an organisation dedicated to the evolution of humankind. She works as the divine complement to her soul mate Open (Chris Bourne) to help facilitate the global Ascension process and feels incredibly blessed to be of divine service.


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  • nyquil762

    Wow, what a great and enlightening article. Thanks for your help. You have definitely helped me move on down the road to happiness and fulfillment. Thx again for your help.

  • A. Susan Adam

    I was interested to see this article. I could relate to what you wrote here. I was born an empath. It took me quite a few years to figure out that not everybody “felt” the same things that I did…that I was different. When I was in my late 30’s, I was in a bad car accident where I suffered a brain injury. My gift of empath was wiped out in that moment. It’s like I lost my sight that day. I’m 60 now and have learned to live without it, but I do miss it.

  • Debbra W

    This was a good article. I wish there was more specific help for those of us who are empaths and find the road somewhat rough.

    • Trinity Bourne

      I’m creating a home-study workbook for empaths – designed to help people embrace the gift of being an empath. So stay tuned…

      • abraka-babra

        thank u so much for the empath-article and all your efforts in that respect!!! i wont need a book anymore, but dont ask how hard it was to get where i am now!!! and this article opened my eyes and finally made me get a grip on what is my true nature.. its so much easier in this 3D-story to have a name for everything and it makes it also easier to share onself…
        thankuthankuthanku!!!!!!!!!!!! love and blessings, barbara

        • bj

          We’re in the same boat Barbara… come sail away with me 🙂

    • Barbara

      Debbra W ~ I almost wrote the same exact thing ! Wish there were some points, suggestions made on HOW to disengage ! Meditating and A LOT of quiet time help me so much, but , the anger & downright meanness of people has gotten WAY out of control and I more than often curse it. Hope you have found some peace. Blessed Be.

  • I have been watching HEROES on Netflix: it is a fantasy TV series about the world where people have “abilities” like hearing another’s thoughts, or being able to influence what people think or feel.

    Interestingly they didn’t consider being an empath worthy of their heroes, maybe because being an empath is an inside deal. It cannot be demonstrated on television, lol.

    But it is real, whereas being able to fly probably isn’t.

    I am an empath, and was an unconscious empath: the phase of life where you don’t know why you feel what you feel, and even meds don’t help because the feelings are not yours.

    In my work in the past 2-3 years I have found that the feelings are tolerable, but my reactions to it are the ones that make me miserable: i.e. when I feel someone come to my calls with anguish, and I don’t react with “this should not be happening” I am fine…

    My guess is that the reason the Bach Flower Remedies (or my own HOE) work so well for empaths is because those remedies work on YOUR reaction to the feelings you get from other people, and those need to be handled, because those are the feelings that lower the quality of your life, your coherence, your vibration.

    I thought I should add this to this article, as my own personal experience.

  • Sandro

    Story of my life !

  • Ella

    I grew up as an empathy and aware of my ability at an early age. Have I mastered to control it? Not completely. It takes a lot, and if one is surrounded by negative emotions, and finds themselves always absorbing but not finding a way to release it, it starts to weigh us down, like a sinkhole. My challenge is with phone conversations or online conversations, for I rely heavily on the sound of the voice and the energy vibrations. Thus it’s really hard to read a person via electronic devices, unless the cues are in the text which I am not good at detecting. I have taken my skill to another level. My skill is the reason I am getting my degree in counseling. It is a gift, why not share it?


  • Name (required)Jim

    I’m an empth. I rode horses most of my life and that kept me grounded it was all I ever wanted to do. I had a bad fall and didn’t want to admit I was hurt and kept riding for another year, then that all ended. I became a message therapist for ten years and tried to share my gift, it was very hard for me to deal with peoples energy. I could feel their pain and taste them in my throat also if they were not there with the right intention it drained the life out of me. I used Walnut Bach flower remedy’s to help. I finally stopped I hated it so much. I do everything you mentioned in your article and more and I am still struggling. If I am not out in nature I am locked in my room. I hate to admit this but there many times I just cry and ask my angels and guides to help me because I just don’t want to be here anymore. If I smoke pot it shuts it off but I have gone years at a time shut off and that isn’t living ether but it makes it bearable.

  • Name (required)Thor Fornes

    In my younger years i was sosialfobic,trembling and shivering hands when people saw me,when i walked trough a crowd of people,if i then had a cup of coffe in my hand,i’ll spill out the half of it…in later years i got a eerie feeling of shivering over my body,when i passed people with some of sickness in their body…i could feel it,where they have it..mutch clues come to pass when i was invited to a course of healing and mediumship..and the end of it i have the ability to heal persons,animals and such..:)

  • Venessa

    you are inspirational openend my eyes

  • Name (required)shannonlea

    Having read this article brings up more questions for me. I have been empathic my whole life, but after recent, severe traumas and near death experiences, it has gotten out of control, causing me to avoid stores and places with alot of people. But, it goes beyond that now to the point that it is not just those on this plane, but on the other side as well, and recently had an experience with a friend where I told him many many things that there is no way he could possibly know, and i don’t remember any of it. I use many of the coping techniques that are listed, but they are no longer helping as they once did. I have been hoping for someone who is experienced with this to help me to get this under control and get my life back to a more tolerable state.

  • jake

    For my entire childhood, teenage years and now adult years (I’m almost 22) I could automatically sense energy. Almost predict words find the deeper meaning in someone’s simple sentence only to be looked at like a mind reader. Which is also something I’m seeming to develop. I can literally feel energy and hear it all around me it seems completely natural. I’ve been struggling in life and worrying about what my purpose is I felt incredibly gifted and out of place in life. Trying to find something that resonates with my singular nature and I seem to find it more with animals than people and so I came across and empath article and now. It’s like everything makes sense I literally possessed all of the many traits listed for one. I feel like this is just the beginning but I’ve been developing other psychic gifts prior to this realization and this seems to glue it together.
    I appreciate all the knowledge I can get on this topic as it seems like I’m reading my own biography. Thank you trinity for this article.

  • hilary

    Nicely put! One thing that’s helped me cope is to figure out what I can do, rather than what I can say (actions that don’t involve me plastering what I’ve noticed all over the other person). Sometimes all you can do is send the wish that the other person finds their path.