6 Steps to Improving Self-Esteem

6 Steps to Improving Self-Esteem

20th October 2014

By Matthew Donnelly

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

Self esteem is based on our perceptions. So before introducing ways to boost self esteem and confidence in your life, we must first be able understand what I refer to as the  ‘self-concept’.

What is the Self Concept?

Your self-concept is how you view yourself, and the identity through  which you perceive the world. It is how you view  your strengths, your weaknesses, your passions,  the job/career you have, the spouse that you’re with, the goals that you create, your dreams, your daily habits, beliefs, perceived limitations and attitudes. And unless we consistently challenge that self-concept, it will ultimately limit  the life that we  live.

“The self-image is the key to personality and human behavior. Change the self-image and you change your personality and behavior.” – Maxwell Maltz (author)

In my experience, many  people don’t have a clear picture of their self-concept, or a bright picture at that.  But we can increase our sense of self-esteem  by developing our self-concept, becoming aware and conscious of our self, gradually challenging what we know about ourselves, and learning to  use both our strengths and weaknesses to our advantage.

The Power of Self Esteem

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” – Maxwell Maltz

Since self esteem is based on our perception, it also affects our perception of what is possible, therefore  developing a higher self esteem can direct your life into many directions. Once we are able to perceive that our accomplishments can be unlimited  –  that  we are unlimited  –  it helps to  determine the capacity at which you set your goals.

Changing the world seems next to impossible according to the general consensus.  However it’s only the ones who set the bar at changing the world who are capable of such a feat.

We can take small steps toward  our goals. Sometimes we may fall shy.  If you have not  achieved the goals that you have set, be kind to yourself,  as long as you’re taking action towards those goals, and creating new ones as the need arises.

“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at” – Bruce Lee.

However unless we build our  self-esteem and confidence, our ultimate goals are  limited by our self-concept and do not  reach us toward our full potential – whatever that may be. Goals born of  high confidence lead us to action, actions lead us to consistency, which in turn helps us creates confident habits, which help us  create the  life in which we will live.

6  Steps  to  Improving Self-Esteem

1. Become Conscious of Our Thoughts and Actions.

The first step is developing an accurate self-concept.  Pay attention to your inner dialogue and become more conscious of your thoughts and actions.

2. Determine and Prioritize Your Values

Consider what is truly valuable in your life. Once we determine and prioritize our values, and stick by them consistently, it helps boost our confidence – for making values based decisions, and  for  being able to trust ourselves to stick with the program that we set for ourselves. If you can’t trust yourself, how can trust anybody else?

3. Write Down  Your Goals

By writing down your goals it pushes those to the back of our subconscious helping us actually push towards achieving them. When we are thinking about accomplishing goals we are in more of a positive state of mind further increasing our confidence.

4. Create a Dream Board

Creating a dream board (or other  physical  representation of your goals) increases your ability to look far and beyond your current situation in life, both consciously and  subconsciously, and visualize  the achievement of your goals. This naturally  increases your motivation and actions as you  go after your dreams.

5. Substitute Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones

Our confidence is directly affected by our state of mind. When we realize that we affect our self-concept by putting  limits on what we believe we are capable of, we can substitute the negative affirmations in our internal dialogue with positive affirmations, whenever we become conscious of them.

The more we look for the positives in the way we  think about ourselves and others, the more our confidence will rise and positive  interactions will flow our way.

6. Ditch the Preconceptions

We tend to get in our own ways when we  preconceive the outcome of certain situations based on the way we feel. But as Eckhart Tolle said, our perceptions are often focused through the lens of our past. We must understand that each and every moment is a new moment and that there is a 100% of chance of a different outcome in some way shape or form, depending on how we approach the situation.

The way we view ourselves is the key to living the life that we want for ourselves. What we say to ourselves, about ourselves and about the world, is  a large factor in where we go in life and the things that we manifest for ourselves.

About the author:

Matt-DMotivated by the desire to learn about himself and the people of the world, Matthew Donnelly’s mission is to create a revolution through mind evolution. The founder of RevolutionalMinds.com, he believes that positivity, love, personal growth, human interaction and going for your dreams are the most important things in the world, and lives the belief that by applying faith, attitude and action to our imagination, we can go places that we can’t even fathom.

Visit RevolutionalMinds.com for more information.

This article adapted for Wake Up World by  Andy Whiteley.

 


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