6 Steps to Improving Self-Esteem

6 Steps to Improving Self-Esteem

By Matthew Donnelly

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

Self-esteem is based on perceptions. So, before introducing ways to boost self-esteem and confidence in your life, we must first understand what I refer to as the ‘self-concept’.

What is the Self Concept?

Your self-concept is how you view yourself and the identity through which you perceive the world. It is how you view your strengths, your weaknesses, your passions,  the job/career you have, the spouse that you’re with, the goals that you create, your dreams, your daily habits, beliefs, perceived limitations, and attitudes. And unless we consistently challenge that self-concept, it will ultimately limit the life that we live.

“The self-image is the key to personality and human behavior. Change the self-image and you change your personality and behavior.” – Maxwell Maltz (author)

In my experience, many people don’t have a clear picture of their self-concept, or a bright picture at that.  However, we can increase our self-esteem by developing our self-concept, becoming aware and conscious of ourselves, gradually challenging what we know about ourselves, and learning to use our strengths and weaknesses to our advantage.

The Power of Self-Esteem

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” – Maxwell Maltz

Since self-esteem is based on perception, it also affects our perception of what is possible. Therefore, developing a higher self-esteem can direct your life in many directions. Once we are able to perceive that our accomplishments can be unlimited—that we are unlimited—it helps to determine the capacity at which we set our goals.

According to the general consensus, changing the world seems next to impossible. However, only those who set the bar for change are capable of such a feat.

We can take small steps toward our goals. Sometimes, we may fall short. If you have not achieved the goals that you have set, be kind to yourself as long as you’re taking action toward those goals and creating new ones as the need arises.

“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at” – Bruce Lee.

However, unless we build our self-esteem and confidence, our ultimate goals are  limited by our self-concept and do not  reach us toward our full potential – whatever that may be. Goals born of  high confidence lead us to action, actions lead us to consistency, which in turn helps us creates confident habits, which help us  create the  life in which we will live.

6  Steps  to  Improving Self-Esteem

1. Become Conscious of Our Thoughts and Actions.

The first step is developing an accurate self-concept.  Pay attention to your inner dialogue and become more conscious of your thoughts and actions.

2. Determine and Prioritize Your Values

Consider what is truly valuable in your life. Once we determine and prioritize our values and stick by them consistently, it helps boost our confidence—in making values-based decisions and in being able to trust ourselves to stick with the program that we set for ourselves. If you can’t trust yourself, how can you trust anybody else?

3. Write Down  Your Goals

Writing down your goals pushes those to the back of your subconscious, helping us push towards achieving them. When we think about accomplishing goals, we are in a more positive state of mind, further increasing our confidence.

4. Create a Dream Board

Creating a dream board (or other physical representation of your goals) increases your ability to look far and beyond your current situation in life, both consciously and subconsciously, and visualize the achievement of your goals. This naturally increases your motivation and actions as you go after your dreams.

5. Substitute Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones

Our confidence is directly affected by our state of mind. When we realize that we affect our self-concept by limiting what we believe we are capable of, we can substitute the negative affirmations in our internal dialogue with positive affirmations whenever we become conscious of them.

The more we look for the positives in our thoughts about ourselves and others, the more our confidence will rise, and positive interactions will flow our way.

6. Ditch the Preconceptions

We tend to get in our own ways when we preconceive the outcome of certain situations based on how we feel. But as Eckhart Tolle said, our perceptions are often focused through the lens of our past. We must understand that each moment is a new moment and that there is a 100% chance of a different outcome, depending on how we approach the situation.

The way we view ourselves is the key to living the life that we want. What we say to ourselves, about ourselves, and about the world is a large factor in where we go in life and what we manifest.

About the author:

Matt-DMotivated by the desire to learn about himself and the world’s people, Matthew Donnelly’s mission is to create a revolution through mind evolution. The founder of RevolutionalMind, he believes that positivity, love, personal growth, human interaction, and going for your dreams are the most important things in the world. He lives the belief that by applying faith, attitude, and action to our imagination, we can go places that we can’t even fathom.

This article was adapted for Wake Up World by  Andy Whiteley.


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