Contributing writer for Wake Up World
The origins of Santa Clause go way back to about 300 AD, when St Nicholas, a wandering monk, became known for his kindness and generosity. The humble monk toured the countryside giving away his fortune to help the poor. Over the years versions, in a variety of incarnations, have been popular in different European cultures. However, the version that most are familiar with today was popularized in America in the 1800s. Stripped of all religious associations, the generous, kind figure became closely associated with Christmas shopping. Like a god of consumerism, children in many Western countries write to the imaginary, bearded, all-seeing elder requesting the material possessions they most desire. Based on their behaviour, ostensibly kept on detailed lists, Santa decides whether the child has been ‘nice’ enough to deserve the presents they requested.
The majority of people with whom I have spoken about the topic of Santa Clause view the custom as a harmless bit of fun that brings an element of light-hearted magic to childhood. They have warm memories of the role Santa played in their formative years, and have playfully adopted the same tradition with their own children. The experience, however, isn’t always positive; there are some negative aspects to this tradition that I feel warrant discussion.
The first issue is one of trust. When I was a toddler I asked my father if Santa Clause was real. He answered truthfully. From that point, the man in the red suit was still a fun part of our Christmas celebrations, but I knew that he was not an actual guy who flew around the planet in a sled delivering presents. Later, when I was older, my father explained that the reason that he had been so honest about Santa was because when he was a child he had believed wholeheartedly in the story fed to him by his parents. When he eventually discovered that he had been deceived by those in whom he had invested his complete faith, he was devastated. In adulthood, I met others who had similar experiences with the Santa Clause phenomenon. Like my father, these people had also been wounded by the fact that that felt they had been lied to by those closest to them — an effect known as The Santa Claus Syndrome.
“He sees you when you’re sleeping. He knows when you’re awake. He knows if you’ve been bad or good. So be good for goodness sake!” ~ Santa Clause is Coming to Town
Another negative slant to the Santa story is the way he is frequently used as a means to control children’s’ behaviour. While using a fictional, omniscient character to command obedience in children can be a relatively effective tool in the short term, it does nothing to ultimately build trust and connection, which I see as the heart of good parenting, in the long term. It also teaches children to associate their behaviour with material rewards and punishments.
A further point, connected to the last one, that struck me when I queried people about their experiences of Santa was that some, who had grown up in poverty, told me that they had felt betrayed by Santa. The reason they felt this way was because, despite the fact they had tried their best to be good all year in hopes that Santa would reward them with their dream present, they were frequently disappointed. Then, to make matters worse, they saw kids from wealthy families, who they knew had been really naughty, enjoying extravagant gifts allegedly brought to them by Santa. This unfair situation left these children feeling like there was something innately wrong with them and acted to erode their sense of self-worth.
“Santa is our culture’s only mythic figure truly believed in by a large percentage of the population. It’s a fact that most of the true believers are under eight years old, and that’s a pity.” ~ Chris Van Allsburg
When I began contemplating the tradition from a sociological perspective, it occurred to me that there was another aspect that I rarely saw discussed. As a society we wholeheartedly support and encourage the childhood belief in magic. However, as a young person approaches adolescence, a crucial part of the coming of age process is accepting that magic is not real; we are taught that it is just a silly, whimsical belief that needs to be left behind in childhood. All the enchantment and imaginary components of reality are relegated to the realm of worthless nonsense not suited for those who have matured, and Santa is often the very catalyst that instigates the shift from one belief system to another.
Concepts like energy, mind power and intuition are consigned to the realm of fantasy by those who adopt a purely pragmatic perspective. Because this perspective is mainstream in the West, most of us are indoctrinated into it as we move into adulthood. For those more naturally inclined to engage with the subtler aspects of being, this can have the crippling effect of making us doubt or second guess our natural inclinations. As we move away from the old childhood belief system it can be natural want to stifle or suppress our connection to the subtler levels of being. Who wants to be the kid that still believes in Santa and magic, when all their peers have moved on?
For me, intuition, imagination and subtle energy add an extra dimension to reality. They act to infuse our world with a level of enchantment that makes our experience of it richer, more meaningful and more dynamic. They are a part of what I call real magic. A necessary key to being able to perceive these subtleties is a belief that they are real and possible. Unfortunately when a belief in Santa Clause is exposed as a false belief many simultaneously throw out faith in all aspects that don’t fit into a concrete adult world view and thus the ability to experience real magic is hindered.
“Having in our childhood felt primal awe for the spectacle of the holiday, we are told to age into feeling sullen and resentful. You are supposed to proclaim Santa dead like preadolescent Nietzsches and decry the whole month as an orgy of crass commercialism.” ~ Thomm Quackenbush, A Creature Was Stirring
Ultimately, I am not suggesting that it is wrong, or consistently harmful to indulge in the Santa tradition. But I think that the more awareness we bring to the topic the better. I believe everyone would benefit from increased contemplation of this topic and the deeper narrative we are sharing with our children through the perpetuation of this tradition. Perhaps it is time that we reassess the values we emphasise through this tradition, or possibly it is time to introduce some new stories and rituals, not necessarily to replace the Santa Tradition, but to balance out its stark commercial nature.
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