Are You a Wallflower or a Trailblazer?

By Paul Lenda

Staff Writer for Wake Up World

Imagine that you have died. You find yourself suddenly looking at your life reel. This movie-like presentation shows you everything you have ever experienced on Earth in your life. In your hyper-expanded state of awareness, you see themes connecting certain experiences with others. You notice that one of the major themes is that of rejection…a rejection of new travels into the unknown. You realize that you have been making decisions out of fear and choosing to stay within the sphere of familiarity. When offered new opportunities to step out of your comfort zone, you chose to not take the big leaps. You come to understand that you lived your life as a wallflower.

Fear manifests as anxiety when you have low self-esteem. That low feeling of self-worth is picked up on by others and creates discordance in your energy, as well as others you are interacting with, resulting in feelings of tension and awkwardness. This outcome further pushes you into feeling like you want to stay retreated as much as possible, to avoid the uncomfortable feelings it brings you.

The problem with living this way is that you live a life of mediocrity, at best. You are constantly saying “No” to life, which shuts you out of cultivating and actualizing your incredible capabilities as a human being. Following the paths that others have made will take you to a very predictable future. If you always choose to “play it safe” you will never achieve anything bold in life. You will never leave a lasting positive imprint on humanity….because you lacked the courage to take a chance.

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” Transcendentalist poet and philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson implies here that being a trailblazer benefits both you and others. If you want to live a rich life that helps you and others around you, there will have to be some courage involved. Courage is when you reject allowing fear to control you. There is an entire sea of possibilities and opportunities that lies in front of you.

Imagine what the world would look like if all the great inventions and discoveries that we benefit from today never occurred. We would still be in the Stone Age….or perhaps would have never even gotten to that point! The story of humanity is a saga of trailblazers. Our bold and the courageous ancestors decided to take new paths, sometimes literally, in the hopes that they would lead them to a better future. We, too, can walk confidently into the future present in the hope of that journey leading to something better for us and others.

The Universe rewards the brave. We all sometimes succumb to insecurities. The key is to avoid letting them control your life. The most successful people in the world can identify fear-based thoughts and consciously direct their thoughts to focus on something more creative and positive. They don’t allow the negative self-talk or naysayers stop them from achieving and accomplishing something.

When you are a trailblazer, the future is largely unknown. Will you succeed? Maybe not the first time, or in the way you imagined, but you will have defined yourself as someone who will never give up trying something new. You know that it is crazy to expect a different result after doing the same thing over and over again. When you embark on a new path, you open yourself to limitless possibilities. There is a consciousness shift that you experience, where you no longer see the world as a place of limitation, but as a place where there is abundant opportunity to do something differently and achieve something better.

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About the author:

Paul Lenda is a conscious evolution guide, founder & director of SHIFT, author, writer, speaker, meditation teacher, life coach, and ambassador for the New Paradigm wishing to provide an integral role in personal transformation and the collective social transformation of humanity. Paul offers private one-on-one holistic life counseling & conscious evolution sessions, via Skype or phone. Paul takes into account all aspects of the hyperdimensional matrix when providing guidance, counseling, and coaching.

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