It’s Time to Stop Playing the What-If Game

By Paul Lenda

Staff Writer for Wake Up World

Anxiety is like a form of self-torture that we sometimes have tremendous difficulty stopped. However, it is entirely fabricated within our minds as an irrational fear mechanism that stops of from being able to move forward in life. One way anxiety commonly creeps up and freezes us into a state of inaction or flight is the What-If Scenario.

The Classic What-If Scenario

You know what this is. It may seem harmless at first. It’s more of a question than an irrational fear that stops you in your tracks. The information that a what-if emerges out of is usually pretty benign or neutral. However, a tiny hint of worry can progressively expand and branch out and become out of control. One worry turns into several worries, and then your mind is tormented by a torrent of them.

What you focus on is more likely to occur because of your ability of conscious creation using your mind power. You will attract whatever it is that you focus on strongly, even if it’s something you’re afraid of. This is due to a universal principle of resonance and attraction. What-if scenarios can eventually lead to their most extreme outcome: obsessive-compulsive behaviors. This is a mental virus that controls the mind like a malevolent sorcerer. Superstitious rituals repeated multiple times are done to somehow magically get rid of the dreadful outcome that someone believes will happen if they don’t do them. While this extreme is not that common, it’s a place that anyone can end up if they allow themselves to give into fear-based what-if scenarios.

Tomorrow is never a given for any of us. In fact, the very next moment isn’t either. That shouldn’t mean that we lock ourselves away in a padded room hyperventilating into a paper bag. Instead, it can lead to a completely liberating experience of life. It means there are infinite possibilities within every moment. Nothing our minds conjure up as being a definite future are a definite future.

Worrying about something won’t prevent it from happening, even if it does happen. What you have the power to do is react in a way where you can shift a situation from being harmful to helpful. The unspoken motto of what-if worriers is that if you can imagine something bad happening, then you are obligated to worry about it. Well, if that’s the game you play, then you’re going to be living in a fear-induced hell realm for a long time.

How to Stop the What-If Game

There are a few practical and powerful ways you can reduce the prevalence of what-ifing you’re doing. Here are a few tips you can act on:

Guided Entrainment Meditation

Affirmations are powerful agents of change that burrow into your subconscious mind. They imprint themselves, over and over, under the grooves are dug so deep that they become a new habit. Guided meditations focused on using affirmations to reduce worrying and anxiety can help retrain your mind to stop defaulting to the Worry Program. There are plenty of guided meditations and affirmation tracks you can get today that will help reprogram your subconscious mind.

Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

One of the aberrations prominent today is the attempt at sanitizing the world, making it too safe. Antibacterial gel is dispensed like candy, yet it will annihilate the immune systems of those who use it often, especially children. Children are forced to schedule play dates instead of taking part in spontaneous play outside and out of sight of parents. These, and other examples, reinforce the worry what-if mind virus. To combat this, you should practice doing something every day that is outside of your comfort zone. Have the courage to break through that worry wall, and you will train your mind to see that those worries are as imaginary flying pigs.

These are just two powerful and effective ways to stop worrying and playing the what-if game. Avoid torturing yourself with hypothetical what-ifs. When you do, you will liberate yourself and feel a sense of empowerment of being able to do and accomplish anything.

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About the author:

Paul Lenda is a conscious evolution guide, founder & director of SHIFT, author, writer, speaker, meditation teacher, life coach, and ambassador for the New Paradigm wishing to provide an integral role in personal transformation and the collective social transformation of humanity. Paul offers private one-on-one holistic life counseling & conscious evolution sessions, via Skype or phone. Paul takes into account all aspects of the hyperdimensional matrix when providing guidance, counseling, and coaching.

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