Choosing To Do vs. Having To Do

2nd April 2013

By Michael Roads

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

It’s interesting how each time I am close to writing a column, a small idea, subject or insight simply pops up, and ends up being rather more closely scrutinised for a wider audience. Just the other day a friend was faced with the choice of doing something, or having to do it.

It seems such a minor thing, but really, there is such a huge difference that even life and death would not be an exaggeration! There are several ways of looking at this, but the energetic viewpoint takes priority. To use a familiar quote of mine, “The metaphysical always precedes the physical.” To choose to do something carries a very different energy from having to do it. In many ways it boils down to either you choose to do it, or you are forced to do it. To choose to do something is a response to life, but if you are forced to do it, there will be a reaction within you.

Choosing and responding come from the moment and are in harmony with life. Choosing creates a positive responsive factor, invoking willingness and enthusiasm, so that whatever it is that you are doing will go easily and well. You create a willing focus that sees a job to be done. From an energetic level, everything will flow in your favour, both physically and mentally, even emotionally, and with this inner harmony you will have insights into how to perform a difficult task, or a smooth efficiency if the task is more familiar.

Being forced to perform a task suggests an initial unwillingness, a dislike of whatever it is. This creates an energy blockage, manifesting as obstacles and difficulty. As things go ‘wrong’ with the task, so the inner reaction gets stronger, often resulting in anger. Reaction comes from the negativity of your past, from old patterns of procrastination, of reluctance, of fear and prejudices. With an invoked energy of reluctance, just like Murphy’s Law, everything that can go wrong will go wrong at the worst possible moment. And like the proverbial Murphy, you will blame everything and everybody. . . except yourself!

On an energetic level it becomes obvious that as energetic Beings we are responsible for the field of energy in which we live and operate in our physical reality. It should, therefore, be glaringly obvious that our preoccupation with blame is as ridiculous as it is pointless. Let’s say that because of a certain inner reluctance to do something, you have been putting it off for days, even weeks. Throughout the period of delay and procrastination, inadvertently you are creating an ever-growing field of resistant energy, meaning your own energy creation will resist every effort in your life for smooth running and well-being. We call this ‘a run of bad luck!’ By the time it finally reaches the point of having to do the despised or dreaded task, you will have created maximum resistance and the greatest opportunity for error or failure.

This scenario fits snugly in the seldom understood new age expression, “We each create our own reality.” Intellectually we know that creation is wholistic, but seldom do we understand the full import of this. The truth is we are involved in the creation of our reality on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level, all simultaneously, in every moment of our lives. Choosing to or having to is a very powerful factor in all this. Quite apart from the ambiguity of our overall life – which is seldom easy for a person who has no insight into the nature of energy to grasp – there is the far more obvious health indicator of inner discord.

Illness is always due to a disturbance in our consciousness. For most people this disturbance is from our daily resistance to the many levels of life. For a more spiritually enlightened person this illness can be the outworking of an old karmic pattern that the person has no intellectual knowledge of. Such a person will use the illness creatively to heal the disturbance from the past by not opposing the illness, but rather by allowing it to fully express and thus release its old pattern of energetic disturbance. And if, to reach a successful outcome, this means death of the physical body, this is an acceptable outcome. Usually, within this greater embrace of life, a so-called healing takes place.
Suppose a person (and this is common) lives much of their life from the ‘having to do’ energy, as opposed to willingly choosing to perform all the many pleasant and not so pleasant tasks of daily life. Sadly, many people grow up this way, following the energetic patterns of their parents . . . indeed, it is difficult not to do this! This inner resistance to life usually results in illness, based in sheer inner-weariness. People who live this way do not enjoy life, seeing life as a burden to be endured rather than a joy to be lived. Do you see what I am saying? Either you choose to live life joyfully, or by default you have to live life because you are in it. Do you see how great the difference is, how hugely it affects the quality and outcome of your life?

Inner-weariness is a self-created field of negative energy that has a huge emotional effect on you. Prolonged emotional discord will eventually manifest as severe physical disturbance. One of the most common of these is cancer. Have you ever wondered why a cancer cure is always described as remission, not cure? Whatever the official reason may be, the reality is simple; if cancer invokes such a change in your consciousness that you cast out the old pattern of mental and emotional discord that created cancer, then, if the physical damage is not too great, you can be permanently cured, healed. The old paradigm will be finished, and you can enter new parameters of life and living.

All too often your body responds to the physical treatment and the cancer cells are killed off, and the body goes into remission. The effect of physical discord has been treated and healed, but the cause of inner discord remains untouched, untreated. Usually remission lasts for as long as it takes the old pattern of inner discord to reassert itself in the person’s life. ‘Having to’ is a seldom realised factor within human health. A constant willingness as opposed to a constant reluctance is so easily overlooked in matters of health. Even a willingness to do the pleasant tasks, with a reluctance for all others, can lead to an eventual breakdown in health. Life is an every-moment occupation, not a pick and choose your moments of willing participation.

You can, of course, indulge in the more obvious pick and choose. You can choose to read this, look at your life, and make intelligent changes for your own well-being. Equally, you can choose to read this, dismiss it and do nothing. You and I are making such choices moment by moment, mostly without a true conscious focus. When you willingly embrace life, choosing to do what needs to be done, you are making subconscious choices that complement and support your overall health and well-being. If you are a having to do it type of person, you also are making the subconscious choices of inner resistance and reluctance, creating the emotional discord which always accompanies such subconscious rumblings.

It is not that we are difficult and complex Beings, quite the contrary, we are holistic and fully involved Beings on a voyage of discovery and creation. If there is any problem at all in this, it is our lack of awareness in the fact that every moment of our lives we are creating every moment of our lives.

In Light and Love – by choice!

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About the author:

Born in England in 1937, Michael Roads  discovered at an early age he was able to communicate with nature and go beyond linear time and space. He immigrated to Australia in 1963 where he was a beef and dairy farmer, and prominent in the early organic movement. He wrote the first book on organic gardening in Australia, which was an immediate best seller. After becoming spiritually awakened in 1986, Michael wrote about his metaphysical experiences and has since published 14 books, translated into 16 languages. 2012 marks his 21st year of traveling around the world giving talks and 5-day Intensives on unconditional Love and emotional balance.


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