True Forgiveness Leaves No Traces

Forgiveness Leaves No Trace

By Nanice Ellis

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

Forgiveness only manifests when we stop using the words or negative energies others have projected onto us, against ourselves.

If I say I forgive you for calling me worthless, yet I keep calling myself worthless, I am holding you within my energetic field and cannot release you until I release the belief that I am not worthy and I stop calling myself unworthy. In actuality, I’m keeping the words you gave me and using them against myself in order to keep myself small and powerless; and I am blaming you – whether that blaming is conscious or unconscious. Does that sound like forgiveness?

Or maybe, for example, I forgive my mother for neglecting or abandoning me and yet I go on neglecting or abandoning myself. Even if I no longer blame her there is a part of me that still energetically holds her accountable – or else I wouldn’t be doing it to myself. Even if I consciously take responsibility for my behavior and feelings, I’m still using her words and/or actions; no matter what I call it or how many times I release her. I haven’t forgiven her when I keep using her  to unconsciously justify my own negative actions towards myself; even without conscious justification, every time I do to myself what she did to me, I hold her liable on some energetic level.

In forgiving another, I can only forgive myself by releasing the perpetual harm that I inflict on myself in the name of the other.

To forgive another, I must take full responsibility for who I am while all the while realigning myself with a higher vibration of truth.

Taking responsibility for myself and releasing another means that I must stop hurting myself in those same ways that were inflicted upon me by the other. As long as I am still hurting myself in those ways, I have not forgiven anyone.

Taking responsibility for my own behavior, feelings, actions and even self-talk is not enough when we are talking about the true transformative power of forgiveness. In order to initiate the true powers of forgiveness, we must forgive ourselves, by stopping the replay of old voices and deeds that perpetuate old disempowering feelings.

What that means is that we must stop committing “crimes of the mind” against ourselves. We must stop criticizing ourselves, putting ourselves down, undermining ourselves, abandoning, neglecting, blaming, shaming and guilting ourselves into submission or powerlessness. We must claim our power and perfection and live it without compromise or sacrifice in any way. We must own our value and honor ourselves in the glorious and divine perfection of who we really are. Only then are we forgiven so that we are able to give forgiveness as well.

We must first forgive ourselves of the sins we commit against ourselves before we can ever forgive another. This means that in order to really forgive someone, you must own your power and worth and choose to express who you really are in all your unique and extraordinary ways.

Only by being true to ourselves and supporting ourselves on all levels can we ever really release another. Until then, they are our energetic prisoners, all the while we are claiming to be imprisoned by them. True forgiveness leaves no traces…

Copyright: Nanice Ellis 2019. All rights reserved

About the author:

Nanice Ellis

Nanice Ellis has been a professional Life Coach for over 20 years, successfully coaching women and men from all over the world. She is also an author, Theta Healer and Master Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.

Helping people to make quantum jumps in their lives, Nanice’s very unique coaching style is often referred to as the “Nanice Effect”. By using powerful and proven manifestation techniques, Nanice coaches people to tap into the power of the Universe and live their dreams, bridging the gap from the imagination to the realization of that dream. She works with leaders, coaches, healers and anyone who wants to live life to the fullest. You can learn more about the coaching programs offered at: Coaching Programs with Nanice.

Nanice is the author of several books, including the inspirational “The Infinite Power of You!” and “Even Gandhi Got Hungry and Buddha Got Mad!”, and her latest book, “Is There a White Elephant in Your Way? The Guidebook for Awakening and Self Empowerment” She is also the host of radio show Chai with Nanice. Her books are available at and right here on Amazon.

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