By Nanice Ellis
Contributing writer for Wake Up World
Many wise mystics and philosophers would agree that life is a choice between love and fear, and depending on which we choose, moment to moment, a new world opens to us.
Love Tips the Scale
Now, imagine a vibrational scale with fear on one end and love on the other. Choice by choice, every time we choose love over fear, we help tip the scale in favor of love, and we aid in raising humanity’s collective vibration. Making a difference in the world doesn’t require invention, innovation, time, or even money, and, in fact, choosing love is the one thing that makes the biggest difference.
Once love outweighs fear, the world will reach a vibrational threshold where love dominates, and, from that point on, the momentum of love will easily ripple throughout Earth – resulting in peace, cooperation, and abundance for all. No matter how trite, it’s true; love is the answer and love can save the world.
It’s easy to love someone you care about, but what happens to love when faced with those you dislike?
Love the Unlovable
We are all actors on a stage, so, instead of seeing good guys and bad guys, let’s remember that we are all playing parts, and let’s not mistake the costumes for the actors or the act for reality. Always be true to yourself, but also remember that it’s all a grand illusion and no one is ever permanently hurt in the production.
Within every bad guy is a good guy playing an important role, often motivating others into self-empowerment, and without bad guys, we might stay asleep in complacency and never awaken. So, don’t be too quick to judge. You just never know who’s behind the “dark mask” nor the purpose of their part. Oftentimes, the “dark masked ones” don’t remember themselves, and they need someone to see behind the facade, and cast a little light in the shadows.
My mother once asked me, “How can you love everyone – even those who don’t deserve it?”
I answered, “But mom, those are the ones who need love the most.”
The Price of Love
Just as it can be difficult to choose love when we don’t love someone, it can be equally difficult to choose love when we are angry at those we love. Oftentimes, choosing love requires forgiveness, but if we feel wronged or misunderstood, forgiveness seems to put us at a disadvantage, possibly making us vulnerable to additional mistreatment, whereas holding a grudge creates an energetic shield that protects us from potential harm. Indeed, it can be difficult to choose love when doing so makes us vulnerable.
I won’t fool you; sometimes there’s a cost to choosing love – whether pride, righteousness, or vulnerability, you can’t choose love without paying the price of letting go.
Put Your Weapons Down
Sword, Fist or Anger makes no difference; all forms of defense keep you from the love you seek and the love you have to give. Don’t be fooled by judgment because it’s the biggest weapon of all! As a product of fear and the antithesis of love, you cannot be in love and judgment at the same time, and this means that every time you choose judgment, you reject love. Whether physical or emotional, put your weapons down and choose love.
My son and I use to get into the same argument all the time; from my perspective, he was completely irrational, and I needed him to see the error of his ways. Of course, this only fueled his fire and the fire between us. One day, when the same argument arose, instead of giving into judgment and righteousness, I chose love. Finally, when being right was no longer more important than loving my precious son, judgment dissolved and I didn’t need to change his feelings, thoughts, or beliefs. No words were exchanged, but as my son also chose love, something shifted, and we never experienced that argument again. Consequently, our relationship permanently transformed.
Ask yourself, “Who am I withholding love from?”
There’s a tremendous cost to withholding love because whatever you withhold from another, you also withhold from yourself. You see, when we feel judged, disrespected or wronged in any way, the first thing we do is protect ourselves. However, when we close down and withdraw love from the one who hurt us, we inadvertently withhold love from ourselves. This is because the perception of mistreatment makes us feel unworthy and when we feel unworthy, we instinctually withhold self-love.
Just to be clear, choosing love does not mean that you should allow yourself to be disempowered in any way, nor does forgiveness require that you continue or rekindle a relationship. By first choosing love for yourself, your choices will support all involved.
What Does it Mean to Choose Love?
First ask yourself, “Where am I blocking love in my life?” Maybe instead of shutting down, open your heart, instead of reacting, practice forgiveness, instead of judgment, be compassionate, instead of separating, engage connection, instead of being closed and protective, give love through a genuine smile, handshake, hug, compliment, good deed or some random act of kindness. Make everyone’s day brighter and when you meet people, really see them. Look into their eyes and notice the beautiful beings beneath the masks. When you ask about someone’s day, stop and really listen to the answer! You just never know how a little kindness can change someone’s life!
Whenever possible, always give to those in need, but do so without judgment. Don’t be fooled, feeling sorry for someone is as much judgment as gossip, especially when we use another’s woes to feel better about ourselves. So, in conjunction with giving, choose loving thoughts and choose to see the True Being beyond circumstances.
No doubt, the love you give ripples out from those you love, and when you love someone, your love flows to everyone they love. So ask yourself, “How can I make those I love feel more loved?” Furthermore, since love goes two ways, allow others to love you and feel their love; if you block being loved, you block the flow of love.
Stop Mirroring and Start Loving
When my dog, Neo (yes, he’s named after the Matrix), encounters other dogs, he immediately matches their energy, so if another dog is playful, he’s playful, and if the dog barks, he barks. Most of us do the same thing, and because we mirror each other’s energy, we get sucked into fear and can’t hold the vibration of love long enough to experience shifts in those less loving.
Courageously be a light in the fog, and even if people judge, keep shining because it does more for the world than fifty years of peace talks.
So, instead of seeking love and noticing where love is lacking, give love, and keep giving love. Consider what would happen if you made the unconditional love you feel for a pet or child, the baseline for loving everyone? I can’t predict how long it will take, but I promise, all the love you give will not only make a difference in others, it will return tenfold. You might even notice that you’re actually happiest when you’re loving.
Many years ago, I was paired up with a random roommate at a conference (except this random roommate was actually divinely selected by the Universe – what appears random is always by divine selection). Anyway, every morning she got up at 6 am to run, and when I got up an hour later, I would find a sweet, good morning note, and because she kissed the note while wearing lipstick, her warm words were accentuated by a pink lip print. By the third day, I was jumping out of bed to read the morning’s note – and without fail, each one was stamped with lip prints.
At the time, I had just finished writing a book about “the simple ways to make a big difference,” but I held off publishing because I couldn’t find a good title. Because my roommate’s lip printed notes made me feel the love and kindness I desired to inspire in the book, I decided to name the book “Lip Prints!”
Sometimes we forget that little things make a big difference, and something that barely takes an effort can make someone’s day and even change their life – not to mention the untraceable ripple effect where one kind gesture inspires another and so forth.
Today, I’d like to make a difference by helping you make a difference. As my gift, Lip Prints is now free to download at www.Nanice.com/LipPrints – and please don’t hesitate to gift it forward.
Your Love Makes a Difference
Love can save the world, but we must all play our parts. What if we miss that vibrational threshold because we are one hug short? Since every act of love and kindness contributes to the whole, let’s not overlook a single opportunity to love and be loved. So love everyone and especially those least lovable, because they need love the most!
Be the Change You Want to See in the World – Choose Love Today, and keep choosing over and over again, because it’s the one thing that can make the biggest difference.
Is There a White Elephant In Your Way? The Guidebook for Awakening and Self-Empowerment!
The new book by Nanice Ellis!
Whether you are looking to reclaim your life, improve relationships, attract more abundance or you are ready to wake-up, “Is There a White Elephant in Your Way?” provides the revolutionary answers you have been seeking.
Your life is a Divine Gift, waiting to be lived fully! As this unique guidebook shows you exactly how to overcome the ego and live as your True Empowered Self, you will learn how to recognize and understand the unconscious dynamics that have run your life, and step by step, you will be able to overcome your own inner blocks and outer issues, so that, one day soon, life overflows with joy and fulfillment!
So… Is there a White Elephant in your way?
The answer is yes, if you ever…
- Experience irrational fear or incessant worry
- Sabotage your big dreams or undermine your dearest desires
- Battle reoccurring issues in relationships, career, health or financial matters
- Feel like you are not yourself but don’t know why
- Get inspired but lack the motivation to follow through
- Believe that your greatest potential is out of reach
- Lack the energy to live your life the way you want to live it
- Worry about what other people think (especially about you)
- Beat yourself up with criticism but can’t seem to stop
- Play small or hide your gifts despite the compelling drive to live your life to the fullest
Discover the hidden key to unlocking your greatest potential and the real secret to being limitless!
“Is There a White Elephant in Your Way?” is available here in Kindle and Paperback editions.
Recommended articles by Nanice Ellis:
- Recovering from Religious Repression – The Journey to Freedom
- Raising Awake Children in a Broken School System
- Escaping the Matrix of Depression – The Truth About Depression Shall Set You Free
- Tired of Being a Negativity Sponge? 12 Ways to Prevent Energy Infiltration and Reclaim Your Energy
- Is Ayahuasca Mother Nature’s ‘Red Pill’?
- Overcoming Negative Thinking – The #1 Cause of Chronic Depression
- How To Help Others Spiritually Awaken
- Are Higher Vibrations Making You Sick? Integrating the Energetic Shift
- How to Heal Emotional Trauma
- The 5 Stages of Awakening – Signposts and Pitfalls on the Path of Consciousness
- Are You More Awake Than Your Family? 12 Ways to Heal Relationships When Your Family Is Still Asleep
- Why You Should Forgive Your Parents… and How To Do It!
- The Radical Parents’ Guide to Raising Teens: Sex, Drugs and Teens – Why Just Saying “No” Doesn’t Work
About the author:
Nanice Ellis has been a professional Life Coach for 20 years, successfully coaching women and men from all over the world. She is also an author, Theta Healer and Master Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.
Helping people to make quantum jumps in their lives, Nanice’s very unique coaching style is often referred to as the “Nanice Effect”. By using powerful and proven manifestation techniques, Nanice coaches people to tap into the power of the Universe and live their dreams, bridging the gap from the imagination to the realization of that dream. She works with leaders, coaches, healers and anyone who wants to live life to the fullest. You can learn more about the coaching programs offered at: Coaching Programs with Nanice.
Nanice is the author of several books, including the inspirational “The Infinite Power of You!” and “Even Gandhi Got Hungry and Buddha Got Mad!”, and her latest book, “Is There a White Elephant in Your Way? The Guidebook for Awakening and Self Empowerment” She is also the host of radio show Chai with Nanice. Her books are available at Nanice.com/6/Books and right here on Amazon.
To connect with Nanice, visit Nanice.com.