Words are the Least Effective Communicator

By Susan Harper Todd

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

Words are the least effective communicator. They can be misinterpreted and misunderstood. You can say one thing and mean another. They are not truth. They can help you understand something, but that is not the same as knowing. To know something, you have to experience it. However there are some things that you cannot experience, because they have not yet happened. And so to help us with this we have feelings. Intuitive feelings… Hunches… Inner Knowing… Inner Vision… And these feelings feed back to us the data from this future event, so that we can know intuitively whether it will be a good or not so good experience – should we choose to have it.

Our feelings are energy. The greater part of us – our energetic body – is constantly scanning the future, giving us feedback intuitively via our feelings and telling us how something will be if we DO take action.

So for example, if you get invited out on a date and you don’t have a good feeling about it, then that is your intuition speaking to you, saying “hey this isn’t a great idea, don’t go there!”. This is an experience that happened to me and I didn’t listen! On the other hand you may have a really strong positive feeling about something – like relocating to a new town or even a different country for example – and that positive excited feeling is your intuition saying: “Go for it, it’s the right thing for you to do, it’s great!”

So pay attention to your feelings. When someone speaks words to you, notice how they make you feel. Your feelings give you the real message – the language behind the words. The only Truth comes from within you. Your intuitive feelings are your only Authority, although we are brought up to believe the opposite. Namely that all authority is outside ourselves and that our parents, teachers, friends know best, when in fact they only know what is best for them. They just assume that what they know is a universal truth and that it is therefore best for us too. Wrong!

We have got so used to looking outside ourselves for all the answers that we have forgotten we ever knew them. We still do have all the answers inside of us, they haven’t gone away, and as small children we hadn’t yet forgotten them… Remember all those times when, as a child, you were told it was wrong to do something, or wrong to want to be something, or to like something, or to think something? Remember that feeling of rebellion? How you immediately wanted to do what you were told you couldn’t do? That feeling of rebellion was your true self saying “I don’t like it when you tell me what to do, because only I know what is best for me! And so I’m going to do it anyway. And if you won’t let me I’m throwing a tantrum as it’s the only way I know of telling you that only I know what is best for me!”

Eventually the ‘bad habit’ of listening to ourselves instead of to ‘grown ups who knew best’ was ‘beaten’ out of us. We started taking the words of others as ‘truth’ and began to ignore our feelings about things – and so words started taking precedence over feelings. We started believing everything our parents, teachers and friends (and later the government) said, because as young children we were told that we were wrong or bad or not nice if we didn’t, because they knew best… and love would be withheld if we didn’t do as we were told. This is how we learnt about control. “If you don’t do this I won’t love you.” “What I say is true and what you are saying/feeling is wrong, and if you don’t believe me then there’s something wrong with you.”

As adults we assume authority and control over others automatically because we learnt our lesson well. We assume that what is good or right for us must be so for others. We also still get those same rebellious feelings… You know, when someone tells you something is true – and deep down inside you don’t feel it is? Or when you are ‘made’ to feel wrong about something? Or when you read that a certain is food is good for you and you must eat it – but you know inside that it’s not right for your body?  Feeling rebellious and angry is your energetic body talking to through your feelings. Saying: “Don’t listen to them! Only YOU know! Only YOU know what is right for you!” So it’s time to remember. You are the sole Authority on You. Listen to your body, to your feelings. They are your energetic self talking to you. We are old enough now to take complete responsibility for our lives and to do what we feel and therefore know is best for us.

It is simply because we were taught as children that authority is outside of ourselves that the words of others have come to take precedence over our feelings. And it is only when we wake up and remember who we really are that we will stop passing on this erroneous teaching to our children. So now that you are awake it’s time to start looking at the message behind the words and noticing how everything feels.

Paying attention to how we feel is appreciating what our body is telling us, appreciating it’s gifts, it’s ability to speak to us. That appreciation is called Loving ourselves. When we feel Love for ourselves and our amazing Being, then that is the vibration our energy is giving out to the world around us and everyone in it… Love… Pure Love. And it will spread like wildfire if you just Be You. Be Love. Be. For when you Be, you are Absolute Love. For Love is what you are. Love is all you ever have been. Love is all you ever will be. For Love is all there is.

All Love, Sue ♥

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About the author

I’ve been single, married, divorced and widowed. I’ve been a teacher, a translator, worked in business and now have my own company… I’ve sailed the Atlantic Ocean and I have climbed Mount Everest. I know! It sounds crazy but it’s true. I said I’d done it and I have, pretty much literally DONE it! I’ve plumbed the depths and scaled the heights in every sense of those words.

And I absolutely know that it was listening to, trusting and following my intuition that got me to where I am today. It got me out of the dark tunnel I was in after my husband died, and not only led me to the summit of Mount Everest, but to many other magical experiences too, like sailing the Atlantic Ocean in a small boat. I was the first British woman to have accomplished both of those things, and only the fifth British woman to stand on the summit of the highest mountain on the planet.

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