Stop, Look and Listen: Healing a Society in Denial

Stop, Look and Listen - a Society in Denial

By  Jennifer Deisher

Contributing Writer for Wake Up World

Beliefs can become patterns if you hold them long enough. People don’t like to have their belief systems challenged as sometimes they are  the very foundation used to “survive”, emotionally speaking. Today, something is obviously not working, yet we still struggle with the idea of confronting and releasing our old  conditioning and beliefs, healing, and making real change.

At this point in humanity’s history it seems that there are many who are desperately hanging on to an antiquated social belief system, many aspects of which they  don’t even realize  exist or affect them. Our social  programming goes very, very deep; it is attached to our sense of Value, and Self. And it is in the shedding of this outdated programming that we find the ability to  expand on the Heart and  our relationship with Self, and know what is best for each of us individually, and authentically.

I see people everywhere who are beginning to awaken to the world around them  and, as much as I try to avoid labels, many  experiencing a kind of ‘Stockholm Syndrome’; the  psychological state of identifying with one’s  “oppressor”, in whatever form that oppressor takes. It could be  in the form of a physically or emotionally abusive relationship, or addiction. It could be the controlling societal conditioning we have been subjected to or the lip service we’ve  accepted  from our “governments” who falsely tell us they have our best interests at Heart. It may be  any any imposing influence that leave us feeling “less than” in some way.

It takes a great deal of resilience to be Awake in this world; we see an apparent  lack of integrity almost everywhere we look, and  it can  be  difficult to maintain a sense of clarity in among all the  confusion, the dichotomy, as we try to talk and walk two different paths. We hear our “leaders”  speak of integrity and priorities on a daily basis, yet we watch as people struggle in poverty  and  hunger, and wars are started in our names.  And  rather than admit this abuse, a failing of the status quo, many still  protect and defend it, and mock those who threaten it.

Where is the integrity in their words?  And where is the integrity in our actions?  

The  Demon of Denial

What we lack, as a society and a species, is acceptance  and accountability. Collectively speaking, we are still in denial. As  Einstein said “we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them” and until we – including our leaders – acknowledge that this isn’t working, we’re stuck with the old way of thinking.

If we  take a moment to reflect honestly on our  Life we  will see where our  most deep seated fears have come to fruition, either in their physical reality or by living in it in the first place. By the same token, we will see where our deepest and most Loving desires have also come forth into our realities. When we allow ourselves, we find the answers within; we understand our  bigger picture.

But on the whole, we are quite busy Living in the “demon” of denial.  It is a difficult thing to go withIN and find Accountability for our own collective ills when we have been taught to accept  judgement and social inequality as normal, to the point that many don’t even realize they’re even seeing  it, or doing it. A dangerous dynamic is playing out around us, and all it takes is a willingness to open the mind and the Heart  and  consider  a new perspective to see it. But many  would rather stick to the program, and even defend and justify it, because it’s more comfortable and familiar than the idea that we have been lied to.

It may feel like threading the eye of a needle. But the truth is,  we have ALL the Power. We Always have… and that itself can be a tough pill to swallow at first. We have accepted less for so long.

But resentments are dangerous things. They don’t lead anywhere positive, rather they take us on a long and treacherous journey into the dark side of the Soul. In order to Create something New we have to stop pointing fingers and placing blame and guilt where it doesn’t belong. When one lives in guilt, blame, and resentment it is not Living at all. There is no Creative energy in this place, no air, no place to go. There is no guilt or blame in ‘the bigger picture’. Energetically  we are just playing out our  collective programming, and the sooner we release that programming and fill the space with Love, the sooner we can begin to Thrive and Grow into our authentic Self, both individually and collectively.

Through the Eye of the Needle

In order to fit through the eye of the needle and release the old programming, it begins with realizing  its existence in the first place.

We are deeply in denial,  a society that doesn’t acknowledge its accountability  –  for systematically destroying one another and our planet in the name of progress, money, religion, and oil.  Even after looking down the Rabbit Hole, I have trouble  wrapping my head around the extent of it – kids being shot at school, war (especially “holy war”?), bullying, hunger, poverty, ecocide, banking scandals, mismanagement of funds, the withholding of our Constitutional Rights to Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness… The list goes on.  Yet  most people go on and on about their daily business not once thinking to stop and question what’s happening around them.

Instead we look to  the same systems that harms us in the first place, for an endless supply of “fix it” remedies,  solutions, distractions and comforts. All we have to do is look around to see something is very wrong and yet we deny it, put our heads back down, pretend it isn’t happening, and get back to “work”. Maybe “someone else” will fix it.

Personally, I’m going to set an example of transparency and accountability in my life. I haven’t lived the life of an Angel.  I’ve run the gamut of all the things that are “wrong” with our society and it’s really hard to pick just one. I spent 6 years re-appropriating myself to “reality” after I was  medicated to the edge of my Soul with anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medication, and pain killers. It nearly killed me. A doctor gave me a prescription once when I was supposedly “depressed” and it went from there, as more and more pills were added to the mix so that I could “function”.  The pharmaceutical industry was making bank while I was so medicated I could  barely function, let alone Live as the Divine woman and mother my Spirit wants me to be.

Stop Look and Listen - Society in DenialWhen you’re IN it, you can’t see it – and that is the True definition of “insanity”. Yet, here we are doing the same things over and over again, calling it “reality” and expecting a different outcome.  I don’t know about you but this isn’t the “reality” I choose for mySELF or my precious, intelligent, beautiful children.

The psychiatrists and medical industry has labeled every emotion as some sort of disorder and then convinced people to take a pill and it will all “go away”. But it doesn’t work that way. It just doesn’t. Nothing is that easy… but it is. Just not how we’re taught. It’s about the Human Connection and the Human Spirit. It’s about Loving each other through it and BEing IN it with each other, free from the judgement we have been conditioned  to heap upon one another. We’re like children doing what we’re “told”, and what we’re being told to do is disconnect ourselves from the bigger picture while corporations and governments dictate every aspect of our very existence. It didn’t even start in our generation – this energy has been  been playing out  for centuries. But it’s time we  take responsibility for our own Welfare and the Welfare of those around us. Today.

Stop, Look, and Listen

We can’t continue to prolong the inevitable. We  reinforce these  failing  ideals onto our children and each other;  a tiny little box of limited and antiquated ways of thinking. We are helping  our kids  onto a  ride that we know is broken. The economy isn’t working. Our energy  technology isn’t working. Government isn’t working. Our healthcare system is broken, especially when it comes to mental and emotional health. Our education system isn’t working.  It’s 2014 and we’re still debating issues of  poverty, environment and equality?

Is this the kind of world we want our children to grow up in?

When our society  accepts only what is reported  through a single  medium,  it causes  tunnel vision! When money is privately controlled, the financial system has failed.  When religions have cynically been robbed of their Spirituality, it’s time to reconsider where we put our faith.  We have an elitist system and every single one of us is responsible, whether we  are actively participating in it, being a knowing “victim” to it, or standing by and watching it happening without action.

until we can be Accountable for our situation we cannot change our thinking. Accountability starts from withIN by releasing the things that no longer serve us emotionally –  resentments, anger, guilt, shame, and judgement just to name a few. But to really boil it down,  there are only 2 emotions from which all  emotions stem; fear and  Love. And if you take the time to look withIN, honestly and with Love, it’s quite simple to tell the difference.

Go Home, go INside and Listen  to our inner knowing  in an Honest way. Make amends with ourselves and our immediate families. Heal and Listen and Care for one another. In order to become Accountable we have to become Self-Aware and we can’t do that amid endless  distractions. Block out the distractions and question the propaganda. Face your denial with compassion.  We have to find Peace and it starts from withIN.

The Heavens and the Earth are speaking to us in every moment. God is withIN and without meaning it comes from the inside out. Jesus taught it. Buddha taught it. Mandela taught it. Regardless of labels, all of great leaders, philosophers, and Spiritual teachers teach the same thing. We are the Creators and we are Creating this “reality” and will continue to do so as long as we deny the Truth. Unconditional Love is the only answer and it starts from withIN. To Love God is to Love SELF and Accept the hardship of those around you so we can Heal our planet and each other.

It is ALL of our responsibility to pick up where our government, economy, and healthcare systems are failing us. We are the ones we have been waiting for, so let’s swallow the jagged little pill and get on with it.  There are no labels. There is no money. There is no judgement. There is only Home and Heart. Peace and Love. Compassion and Empathy.  The Spirit is here and it Lives withIN each and every ONE of us, and our planet. It is the only Home any of us know.

Have the courage of Heart to see and hear what may BE uncomfortable. Ultimately, the Truth is a Beautiful Gift to receive. It is only our authentic  Emotional experiences and insights that will help us Unite and Heal our wounded Hearts.

I Love you all so very much and look forward to our making  it through the Eye of the Needle together.

In Love and Unity,


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About  the author:

Jennifer DeisherJennifer Deisher is an empath, intuitive, emotional healer, spiritual transformation artist, and  the writer of the  Moon Hippie Mystic blog. Aaron Deisher is a psychic medium, shaman and intuitive  specializing  in behavioral and paranormal aspects of spirituality. Together they  founded  Blueprints For Butterflies  as a safe, loving space to support  people  who are awakening and making a spiritual connection with  their Higher Self. Offering professional healing and reading services, they work to help others confront their ‘demons’,  realize their divine  spiritual, emotional and creative blueprint, and create a life that  resonates with each  individual’s unique  energy signature.

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This article adapted for  Wake Up World  by  Andy Whiteley  and  Jennifer Deisher.


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  • So very true Jennifer, I think we only really appreciate the extent of societal and cultural programming when we awaken and look back into the ‘box’.
    Then it is difficult to see friends and loved ones still stuck firmly inside the box knowing there is not much you can do about it, they will wake when they are ready, if ever.
    Only recently did I fully understand the extent of the programming when I wrote a short ebook about a new way forward, a new system to rid us of the ills of our political, financial and economic woes.
    The ebook explains it all including about changing beliefs but when I try to explain it to someone who hasn’t read the ebook it is almost impossible, their entire thought process is rigidly pre-formed and new ideas can barely make it past the mental bars of beliefs which filter perception.
    I won’t discuss the ebook now, it is pointless until it is read.
    What did Ghandi, Mandella and MLK have in common, what was it they did which changed history? They changed people’s beliefs and that is all it took, for when that happens we are unstoppable.
    As you said so well, we cannot change things for the better, we cannot rectify the wrongs within the same systems they were created within.
    We need a clean sweep, a new way forward and I have written about it in my free, no strings ebook called The Organic Economy, the final step in the evolution of democracy.
    Available as a pdf download at
    Please spread far and wide to help people awaken and to plant the seeds of new ideas for the coming collapse is a golden opportunity for us, it is our time, time to finally be truly free.

  • Thank you for this excellent article. As I become more “awakened” (in part thanks to sites like “Wake Up World”), I am losing family and friends, who are still thinking in the old ways. This is a very painful part of the journey. They are quick to blame others – like me, for minor faults, instead of just getting on with the work of awakening. So many individuals, let alone health professionals, government and industry officials, educators, etc. do not take responsibility for even minor actions which are contributing to destroying the world. It will probably take a sweeping worldwide catastrophe to wake up most people -and then, it may be too late.