The Blame Game… and Moving Beyond It


By  Openhand

Contributing Writer  for Wake Up World

Right now in the world there is a good deal of anger and resentment, understandably so. When you consider the state of world affairs, of the economy, of the environment, of the inequity and injustice, it’s enough to make a saint seethe! Yet the moment we blame someone or something else in the outer world as being the cause of our reality and experience, is the moment we disempower ourselves.

Why so? And what would be a more productive approach?

Mastering the Chess Game

It’s not surprising really that we might want to blame the outside world – and people in it – for those events and circumstances that ‘go wrong’ in our lives. Through day-to-day activities, society seems to always teach us the importance of ‘self defence’, of always knowing what to do, of not admitting we could be wrong. It teaches us that we are separate from one another and all things; and that events happen randomly with no greater cause.

In society it’s all about manifesting, controlling, profiteering, winning or just plain surviving.

We are instilled with wishes, hopes, desires or fears about “how things really could be or should be”. Furthermore, we’re taught that we shape our lives by moving pieces around on the external ‘chess board’: friends, relatives, partners, houses, jobs and cars to name but a few. How often do you hear about trying to find that perfect  soul mate  for example, or how to secure your house, your ‘nest egg’ or the life you always wanted?

It’s not surprising that even ‘spiritual people’ might forget one fundamental truth…

We shape our world and everything in it,  including the consequences, people, events and circumstances,  not by moving pieces on the outer game board  like some logical, mind-led chess player,  but from the configuration of consciousness we radiate from within.

Co-creating together

Now I know that accepting our inner configuration of consciousness creates the outer mirror is sometimes quite a challenge to get. Quite frequently I’ve heard from people…

“Surely not EVERYTHING is created by me? What about what everyone else is doing? What about the people I come into contact with? Are they not creating too?”

Yes indeed. We  co-create together. The society in which we live includes also those who manipulate it. But the point is, everything is consciousness and we draw EXACTLY those circumstances and people to us, that we need in order to see who we really are by reflection in their mirror. So for example, many people are currently complaining about the banks and big corporations exploiting us and our earth. But we each have the power to decide what we spend our money on and with whom.

We created this system in which we live by our own inner karma, and the ONLY way to truly change it is to change ourselves…

Do you believe that by going inwards we can really change the world? I do, I believe its the only way!

A spiritual warrior responds

So society is simply being the mirror to our inner configuration of consciousness. So let’s be really clear what is meant by the term ‘mirror’. It’s not that we simply see a direct reflection of ourselves. Yes, we may see both the ‘good’ and the ‘bad’, but the real point is…  the people we come into contact with  co-create circumstances with us  that get us to behave in a certain way.

A person might make us angry or frustrated for example: but it is us that is allowing ourselves to be that way. It is this reaction, rather than a higher response, which is limiting and victimising us, not the person themselves…

“A warrior responds, only a fool reacts” –  Socrates from Peaceful Warrior

I’ve so often found in my awakened life, that when I have a problem with how someone else is being or what they are doing, that rather than looking at how  they  should change and how I think  they  should be, if instead I consider how  I  am causing this situation and how  I  am being invited to evolve, then it always seems to facilitate a more evolved, harmonious outcome.

The moment we blame another for something that happens in our lives, or the wider world, is the moment we disempower ourselves. We give away the possibility of self empowerment.

Realise, don’t theorise

Of course we might get this Law of Attraction at an intellectual level: that we really do draw to ourselves the exact circumstances as created by our inner configuration of consciousness. But we really have to live it and test it to realise the truth in it. If we’re truly prepared to take responsibility for literally everything that happens in our lives, if we’re truly prepared to put ourselves out in this way, at whatever apparent personal cost, then this is probably the most empowering thing we can do in our lives.

We’re taking responsibility back for who we are and what we experience. We’re no longer being victimised by events and other people by blaming them for what happens. And we’re certainly not projecting anger or blame at someone else – all that does is put negative energy into the field which will sooner or later rebound right back on us.

So do you have the courage to take responsibility for everything you create? From direct experience, those who have taken responsibility have taken major leaps forward on their spiritual path and discovered they’re shaping a life that clicks into place, one that really works for them, the life they were destined to live.

(Chris Bourne)

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About the author:

I am a Higher Dimensional Catalyst. I ‘walked into’ this incarnation back in 2002 through the circumstances of a life threatening car crash. With the previous soul I had a sacred agreement that I would help fulfil his destiny of Ascension and move on. In so doing, we established the  Five Gateways  route  map to benefit others in their spiritual evolution. In return, I have had a full familiarisation as to the complex and challenging situation Humanity faces right now here on Earth. It has prepared me to assist in the catalytic shift of consciousness.

My soul is now centred in the higher dimensions where I find myself in communion with a benevolent presence acting through the weave of life which I call “Openhand”. Working with this energy through the field, means I can energetically highlight blockages, help dissolve karma and activate beingness within people simply by sitting in meditative communion with them.  It’s a divine gift that fills my heart and inspires the  Openhand work.

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