Overcoming Envy and Competition

By  Caroline Diana Bobart

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

Competition in this sense is a game of one-upmanship that keeps us from being able to have and express our soul’s real wisdom, purpose and pace. It is a game we unwittingly play entirely within ourselves, and in reality, it has little or nothing to do with the person being envied.

Envy  is a complex, almost toxic manifestation of our own feelings of frustration, resentment, anger  and  powerlessness that results when we are somehow disconnected from our truth, and our dreams. We buy into the lie of separation, both within and without, and this mistakenly draws our attention to the outside – where  we compare our frustration to what other people are doing, what they have, their personal triumphs etc.

Being in competition with others is really about being in competition with ourselves.  Our feelings of jealousy and envy of someone else are  really a reflection of what is going on, or not going on, entirely within ourselves. The person we envy typically isn’t aware of our envy,  and so  doesn’t usually care that  this is what you are experiencing.

The feelings of jealousy and envy only perpetuate the divide within us from our true selves, and feed those  feelings of powerlessness.

Can you identify situations in which you feel an unhealthy, unnecessary competition or envy, and sincerely no longer want to feel that way?  Realise that you are really yearning to heal; to be  able to know, have, love and truly trust yourself to create the kind of life you dream of.  That can only  come from a place of fully knowing and accept yourself.

Now for a moment, allow yourself to consider, absorb and integrate the following statement to whatever  extent that it resonates with you;

If you want to get to the  issues underlying envy, it is worth trying to formulate your thoughts around that aspect of yourself that you intuitively feel disconnected from – that  life you only dream of – which in turn causes you to feel resentful of others.  As you begin to sense and feel into the nature of this inner place, you might also want to set a conscious intention that the underlying issue  comes to the fore to be  healed in the ways that are most natural and perfect for you.

As you become  more aware of and aligned with that sense of disconnection, what others are  doing or what others have becomes irrelevant. You  learn to understand, validate, appreciate and love yourself — who you really are on your most fundamental, powerful and vulnerable levels.

Disconnection creates frustration at not feeling like you can create for yourself the kinds of life experiences other people seem to be doing with ease.  Identifying and releasing the disconnections that cause us to feel envy  is important because this  is where your own creative potential resides.  

In other words, in reality your Spirit is much stronger, more magnificent and capable than you know and realise yourself to be… much stronger  than the feeling of being diminished in  comparison to others… and much stronger  than the sense of  separation, frustration and powerless that arises out of any  perceived inability to create the life you really want.

Previous articles by Caroline:

• What Story Do YOU Tell?
• Creative Day-Dreaming: Your Connection to Life’s Creative Flow
• The Journey vs. The Dream
• Why Tomorrow Never Comes
• Is Fear Holding You Back From Getting What You Really Need?
• Are You Waiting for Inspiration? Or Intuition?
• Step Into Your Brilliance

About the author:

Caroline wants to live in a world where it’s easy for others to connect with their innermost desires and experience the exhilaration that comes when they find their groove. An  Intuitive Life Coach,  Caroline is the creator and facilitator of  Everyday Alchemy: Intuition at Work and Play, a system of intuitive self-healing programs,  thoughtfully designed to help you reveal your own essential energetic, intuitive and creative nature, and effect positive, meaningful life change.

You can experience Caroline’s work by joining the  Everyday Alchemy community,  a platform designed to give you greater self-understanding and alignment with your inner knowing, spiritual purpose and needs. In this confidential and sacred space you are invited via online teleconference each month not only to show up as your most authentic self but to participate in various combinations of group discussion, journaling exercises, guided meditations, intuitive coaching and energy-based self-healing techniques.

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