Living As The Being You Are

16th April 2013

By Michael Roads

Guest Writer for Wake Up World

The title of this article begs the question; who are you? A general basic for most people’s concepts about themselves could be something like this; I was born. I’m human. I’m not bad looking. I think I’m reasonably intelligent. My life could be better, but it could be worse. I hope to be successful. I will grow older, and one day I will die. We only live once. I hope that my life will have been happy.

None of this addresses who you are. How many people consciously ask themselves these questions: Who am I? Why am I? What is my life truly about? In fact, only the few ask these questions. The many do not even think about it, or it is a fleeting thought, quickly dismissed.

Most people grow up with a similar outlook on life as their parents. Oh yes, there is the time of rebellion, when parents are ‘has-beens,’ but this passes. By the time our thirties arrive, we realise that our parents actually have learned something about life. And then, like it or not, all our formative years with them kick in . . . and we gradually become more like them as the years pass by. We share similar views of life, pretending that we don’t. Oh, we may well be very computer literate, and they are hopeless on anything electronic, but such as this is immaterial. We mostly follow their emotional patterns, their basic beliefs; we have a similar relationship with life, and with ourselves. If they had anger problems, the probability is that we will.

Obviously, we are also capable of manufacturing our own!

Parents with low self-esteem will have children who grow up with, mostly unrecognised, low self-esteem. The parents who are jealous, or need to look good before friends and neighbours, will have children who grow up with similar problems. And this is my point, we really do inherit traits, habits, beliefs, and the long conditioning of our parents. Unhappily, the more we dislike a certain habit they have, the more likely it will also be ours! Sure, some of us overcome these undesirable traits, but most people do not.

If I tell the average person – if there is such a person! – that they are beautiful, they will go into instant denial. Try it! If I tell them that they are a magnificent, metaphysical, multidimensional Being of Love and Light, they will laugh, and get embarrassed. And yet, this is the Truth of a human Being; this is who we truly are. If I tell them that they are an immortal soul living in a mortal body, they will look at me blankly, shrug, and ask, “So what’s this got to do with anything?” Only everything! Because of all this, we deny our greatness. We cringe at the idea of smallness, but we still reject our greatness. Why? Probably because we are living little lives.

Victor Hugo said it well; “People living their lives of quiet desperation.”

God, how scary is that?! Little lives of quiet desperation! Mind you, in this day and age, most of these people live little lives of shouted blame, loud demand, and aggressive anger; it’s all the government’s fault! What is it in us that creates the concept of blame, and anger, and being the continual victim?

I’ll tell you; it is our program! This program is created over lifetimes of living without any true conscious awareness. If an animal species lived this way, it would become extinct. But for humanity, this is now considered normal! Even scarier! Living a subconscious life, unaware and ungrateful, always wanting more . . . is normal. Resentment, blame, and anger; normal. Quite honestly, being normal today is a death sentence! Normality today promotes and fosters sickness.

As a spiritual teacher of Love and Truth, I see some aspects of life and living in today’s world that stand out as utterly stupid. We have become experts at what does not work in life and living. We live like this – and it does not support us in any way; this includes mental, emotional and physical health, joy, love, freedom, and inner growth – but we keep on repeating it, day after day, expecting better results. This is classic insanity!

Okay . . . I have exposed a mere fraction of the problems with most people, but in a holistic world the fraction ‘is’ the whole. So what is the fundamental problem most people have? I could write a book about this, but I will   content myself with the very nucleus of the issue. Life is not a matter of chance, or accident; life is a teacher that responds to you in every moment of every day. Think about this. Life will relate to you in direct response to your relationship with yourself. That’s it! You have just read two of the most profound statements about life and living that there are. Read the italics again . . . and again. Now, feel what you have read. Think about it in your heart; feel it in your head!

If you read these words, and dismiss them . . . in the easy way of reading, they will do NOTHING for you. If you read them, digest them, place them into your heart . . . change can happen. Your relationship with yourself is your relationship with life. How simple is this?

So, this begs another question; how would you classify your relationship with yourself? Do you love yourself unconditionally? No. Do you truly like yourself? Probably, yes, but this will make you unusual. Most people do not like themselves – yet only a few would admit their self-dislike – even to themselves! If you are a person who reads articles like this, or reads books such as I write, undoubtedly you are in a better place within yourself than the huge majority of people.

Most people in the world struggle with life. Why? Simply because their lives reflect the struggle they have in their relationships with themselves. This relationship is the most important relationship you will ever be in . . . because you are never out of it! This is an unfailing Truth, and there is no way around it. Neither money nor fame nor death can abort this reality; your relationship with yourself is your relationship with life. Now, one other thing; your life is the continuity of the soul you are. This means that the life you are in, now, may reflect aspects of your previous incarnation. And the life you are in, now, will also reflect aspects of this life in the next. Why? Because you are an immortal Being, and your life of maybe a thousand so-called lifetimes is but a single continuing life. You can continually improve the reflection!

Okay . . . what does all this add up to in the most simple terms of how to live your life? It adds up to a very simple equation; Love who you are. Love who you are with. Love what you are doing. Love your body. Love your life. In this way, you will change the whole subconscious program of self-victimisation.

By doing this you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. But be aware; this is a lifetime process! As Love grows, you grow. Peace grows. Joy grows. Conscious intelligence grows. All this is you . . . growing.

One last reminder: You do have to live this. Thinking about it will achieve nothing.

Previous articles by Michael:

About the author:

Born in England in 1937, Michael Roads  discovered at an early age he was able to communicate with nature and go beyond linear time and space. He immigrated to Australia in 1963 where he was a beef and dairy farmer, and prominent in the early organic movement. He wrote the first book on organic gardening in Australia, which was an immediate best seller. After becoming spiritually awakened in 1986, Michael wrote about his metaphysical experiences and has since published 14 books, translated into 16 languages. 2012 marks his 21st year of traveling around the world giving talks and 5-day Intensives on unconditional Love and emotional balance.


If you've ever found value in our articles, we'd greatly appreciate your support by purchasing Mindful Meditation Techniques for Kids - A Practical Guide for Adults to Empower Kids with the Gift of Inner Peace and Resilience for Life.

In the spirit of mindfulness, we encourage you to choose the paperback version. Delve into its pages away from screen glare and notifications, allowing yourself to fully immerse in the transformative practices within. The physical book enriches the learning process and serves as a tangible commitment to mindfulness, easily shared among family and friends.

Over the past few years, Wake Up World has faced significant online censorship, impacting our financial ability to stay online. Instead of soliciting donations, we're exploring win-win solutions with our readers to remain financially viable. Moving into book publishing, we hope to secure ongoing funds to continue our mission. With over 8,500 articles published in the past 13 years, we are committed to keeping our content free and accessible to everyone, without resorting to a paywall.