The Gut Wrenching Grief of Leaving a Soulmate

By Open

Contributing writer for Wake Up World

The classic mainstream idea of soulmates seems to be that you meet on a cloud and sail off happily into some distant sunset, there to live happily ever after in coupled bliss. It’s a very limited perspective!

In my experience, soulmates appear at key times on your journey, so as to have great experiences, yes, but also, to push you to the limits, to find ever deeper aspects of your unrevealed self. A soulmate will have exactly the right configuration to encourage you to find your highest light, and also, to dig deep into your density. Once the ‘soul agreement’ is complete, you may walk parallel paths a while longer, or you may diverge and each go their own way.

In my experience, parting was a gut wrenching illumination, that initiated the apex of soul integration for both of us…

Looking Deeply Into the Mirror

To me a true soulmate bears a close reflection of your Twin Flame in some way: the Twin Flame being the unmanifest aspect of yourself that doesn’t incarnate, but remains close to the source as a ‘homing beacon’, guiding you back to the completeness of your True Self.  You don’t have to effort to find a soulmate; you certainly don’t have to actively look. They will be drawn to you, when you’re at the right point on your journey to benefit from the interaction — when you’ve already found a good degree of inner completeness.

Looking into the eyes of a soulmate, is like metaphorically looking into a mirror. Reflections naturally spark in day-to-day life, that encourage you to find the absolute best that you can be; but also, what’s seldom spoken of, is that the mirror will activate buried density. So the experience is often bitter sweet.

To gain the utmost from it, requires each to completely embody your manifestations — to empower yourself by taking ownership of everything that is created in your landscape.

If the soulmate relationship is a romantic one, then not only can it become serenely beautiful, but also there’s the great challenge of losing aspects of yourself within inner blindspots. It’s all too easy to bathe in the light of your partner, and settle into comfortable easiness. The risk is that energy fields blend, the other fulfils aspects of your dormant self, which if you don’t delve honestly enough into, can become a subtle co-dependency. Not only is it limiting, but it can become fertile ground for deceptive Opposing Consciousness, that can bind you into a life of comfortable limitation. It’s absolutely essential therefore, that in soulmate relationships, there is plenty of space and continual encouragement by the other to secure soul sovereignty. Remember, to become truly The One, will require you to frequently step into the Void of Presence in your aloneness — your all-oneness.

“Rights of Passage” in Recovering Lost Nuggets of Soul Gold

I have been blessed to have met with a soulmate in this lifetime, with whom I know I’ve traveled in past lives before (Trinity and myself have both shared reflective experiences here.) It has been the most beautiful, and also at times, the most challenging of ‘dances’ in my existence. It became especially intense, when after some considerable time together, having integrated our lives in support of one another, that the path clearly revealed: it was in our highest mutual interests to part company. We’d each buried crucial aspects of our inner most selves in the relationship. The time had come to dig deepest of all, and recover those lost nuggets of soul gold.

The path had revealed we should part several times in the years that led to our final separation. Progressively incompatibilities revealed themselves as we each evolved. Although it became ever clearer, there was understandable resistance. In so many ways it didn’t make sense. Despite the surfacing differences, we were both deeply in love. We each supported one another in our private lives and within our divine service. As the path became ever insistent, it seemed to drive each at times to the very precipice of sanity. How can you resolve in a lower human mind to separate from someone you are so deeply in love with? The situation was greatly complicated by exceptionally clever ‘black snake’ entities that confused the landscape by creating doubt in one’s rightful path.

When the parting did commence, I have to say I was not at all prepared for the level of judgment I was to to receive, from apparently conscious people who knew us both. From the sketchiest of external perspectives and limited viewpoints, there was a shocking number who thought they understood the full picture, and put 2 and 2 together to get 13. I have to say it did teach me a thing or two about lower human nature, and the paramount requirement to nevertheless persist in the face of it.

“Cowardice asks the question, ‘Is it safe?’
Expediency asks the question, ‘Is it politic?’
Vanity asks the question, ‘Is it popular?’
But, conscience asks the question, ‘Is it right?’

And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but one must take it because one’s conscience tells one that it is right.”

— Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Finding the Sword of Profound Self Honesty

Gregg B

Finally, after the Universe spoke loud and clear, it took a step of immense courage, commitment and clarity, to break away from the cauldron, and unleash the conditions, that each might dig deepest of all: to separate the overlapping fields in which the roots of limitation, had for some considerable time, been sewn. For me, it meant leaving to a distant island (La Palma in the Canaries) and journeying deeply on inner planes, with the sword of profound self honesty and realignment, no matter what the external consequences might mean, both for myself and my partner.

The experience was utterly gut wrenching. I have never before, knowingly in my existence, touched that level of grief. It wasn’t so much my own sense of loss that was the ultimate challenge — because I’d come into the Void of Presence many moons before. Therefore I was able to continually align myself and reclaim the experiential sense of completeness. I knew that by penetrating deeply into the grief of my own loss, that I’d penetrate through the eye of the needle, and reclaim the kundalini energy that had been invested in the relationship. I was able to successfully do this after several weeks of fully committed inner Breakthrough Inquiry.

No, grief of my own loss was not the ultimate problem. For me it paled in comparison to realising the immense pain my realignment was causing to my partner. To know that your actions are the cause of another’s deep suffering, I found was the toughest of all to bear. It was my own inner veil of distorted, excessive compassion that had me writhing in agony. It didn’t make sense — how could a truly compassionate being cause that amount of suffering to another? But of course suffering can only happen due to some kind of disconnect from the divine. The penny dropped. No matter what the cost, I must persist in the ultimate interests of both.

The resolve so steeled, I recall the final separation, which took place on the astral planes. I was with my soulmate, bordering the 8th dimension. It was clear my path lay directly into the higher plane, and I must finally set her adrift to follow her own journey of greater soul sovereignty. Empathically, I could feel her sense of abandonment and desolation. The feelings of grief reached their zenith. But with dogged persistence, the veil finally fell. It was in rightness to continue. I looked on as my partner slowly drifted off to the edge of the distant panorama… and beyond. Some while later, as I settled deeply into myself, the miraculous happened — a ‘doorway’ opened into the higher plane of the 9th, 10th and 11th densities. The Higher Dimensional Team — “Openhand” — that I know, welcomed me humbly home. It was abundantly clear: I’d undertaken a Rights of Passage — an initiation into higher levels of consciousness and soul alignment. 

The Highest Interests of ALL sentient life

The parting and concurrent rights of passage was not something that I consciously chose. The soul does not make choices as the ego would – it simply flows in a direction of rightness, and works to resolve out that which would limit. The path of light happens all by itself. To reach the highest levels of consciousness is in no way easy. The higher up ‘the mountain’ you climb, the more ‘rarified the air’ becomes, and the steeper the challenges. But there does come a point on the journey, where you realise that no matter what the physical consequences, the only thing that truly makes sense is to follow the direction of your soul’s calling — it is one that has the highest interests of ALL sentient life in the equation.

And so it was by these rights of passage, that I came home into the higher dimensional plane and my soulmate came into her greater soul sovereignty. The veils of limitation had fallen; the glass ceiling on my consciousness had shattered. For some considerable time I had been inquiring of the Universe how to open a higher dimensional bridge in the interests of all sentient life in the Great Shift here? 

I had been unequivocally answered. 

It was at the commencement of Openhand’s 5D Shift Project in the summer of 2017, that this song by “Jont” came to me. How sublimely surreal it is, when your grief has been honoured by the Universe:

“It’s okay, we understand, we empathise”

May you always find the courage to walk your true path.


Photo credit: Soul Mates by Toni Hopper.

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