Love and the Art of Forgiveness

28th March 2013

By  Carmen Allgood

Contributing Writer for  Wake Up World

At some point, each of us will reach that most depressing point in life where we just want to throw in the towel, call it quits, and abandon earth. When we aren’t certain of our purpose in life, we find ourselves in the most uncomfortable position of feeling helpless and hopeless. We will then start looking for a better way and embark on a serious, sometimes desperate search for an answer to this problem.

Let’s start our journey of learning the art of loving and being loved by admitting that there is nothing anyone will ever desire more than the experience of love in their lives. Surely this is a constant companion and weapon of choice we want to arm ourselves with as we tiptoe through this fierce and unforgiving world.

Becoming a Teacher of Love through the Mastery of Forgiveness is Our Highest Calling

Our purpose here is to bring peace to the world. The only part anyone has to play in the accomplishment of this is their own part, which manifests by bringing peace to their own mind. This simplifies the journey immensely when we recognize this is true, and allows us to stay focused on our heart’s desire. Given the fact that nothing is more difficult or exhausting than being unhappy, acknowledging that holding grievances is the underlying cause of all misery is essential to accomplishing our purpose.

We are all here having a human experience, and it goes without saying that somewhere along the line we have been injured emotionally. These experiences are the perfect opportunity for us to rise above the situation, practice forgiveness, and take back our personal power. Learn now to see conflict as a call for help or cry for love – in yourself and others.

Surrender Means to Give in to Love

Surrender in the ego world is equated with loss, defeat, and sacrifice. In the world of spiritual attainment and perfection, surrender is the Holy Grail and the pivotal moment when we truly realize that we not only have everything, we are everything. There is no need to suffer, and there is no need to learn through pain, because loving lessons are gladly remembered.

Surrendering unhappy, unloving thoughts through forgiveness allows us to experience personal healing transformation. When we truly forgive, we release ourselves from conflict and become completely aware of our own invulnerability. The only reason we want to be a master of forgiveness is so we can be happy, not just some of the time, but all of the time.

Forgiveness: A Means to an End

Forgiveness is how we surrender to inner peace and happiness, which is not a place or space in time or part of the physical world, but a state of mind. The real question is whether or not we feel worthy of love. Ask if it is possible that anyone can deprive us of love, which is always the problem in any situation. This problem is totally unreal because the separation from love never happened. The remedy for understanding that this is true is the fact that everyone is, and has always been, connected to the Source of Love.

Eclipsing the Means and Attaining Our Goal

The third and final step will actually be taken by Love itself, when we have become completely ready and willing to be happy and at peace. Once the means – forgiveness – has been completed, the memory of love floods the mind because all obstacles to peace have been given up in favor of joy. This is not a condition set by love, but a decision the individual has made to side with peace instead of conflict. Conflict resolution can seem to take forever, but only peace of mind is eternal.

Surrender. We are all surrounded with a love so real and gentle, so all-encompassing that it offers us the way out of conflict, loneliness, fear, and releases us forever from the thought of death. Forgive and you will see things differently. Love is the Answer.

Music Video courtesy indie artists Wes and Victoria Hamil – Reunion from their Billy Saigon release, and heard on Radio Shows.

Carmen Allgood © March 2013

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About the Author

Carmen Allgood  is the author of: The beginner’s guide to inner peace –  Beyond Diapers – How not to wallow in your own poop“. Carmen offers readers a modern day exploration of spiritual evolution, with a timely twist of pop-psychology for the masses who are starved for lasting peace of mind and true happiness. Carmen unveils the mysteries of love, reveals the means to heal the mind and thus the body, and the simple steps available to all of us to live in constant joy.   She also produces syndicated  independent music radio shows, which have featured 20,000 Independent Artists from around the world.


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